Reflections on Recent Events
As the year drew to a close, I have become more reflective on events of years past.
Folks, I have a strained relationship with many in my family as a result of their coddling of my sister. One thing that always bothered me was my sister could never do anything wrong in their eyes. They send her money to pay for her “influencer” lifestyle and think she will eventually turn it around, she is 38. At major milestones for my parents such as Christmas, Birthdays etc. I am treated to my parents saying they “just want 2 good kids.” I have always viewed this as a major slap in the face.

I am completely sustainable on my own. I own a home, have a great paying job, and have saved enough that when this job inevitably goes away, I can work because I want to, not because I have too. My sister on the other hand is a convicted felon due to her drug trafficking. Oh, and while on felony probation, she got a DUI in a crash on the way to the airport to fly home. Yes, she couldn’t even hold off on drinking until she got home. She suffered no consequences, no jail time, and very minimal fines. Oh, she still gets to live in San Diego, and my understanding is her apartment is near Coronado (high rent district). She has the perfect life. When we had family functions, I noticed family drifting toward her and away from me, they made their choice! I am the black sheep/persona non-grata.
I have gotten over it, it took some time, but I needed to realize I cannot control how other people think.
The wisdom I want to pass on?
1. Get the toxic folks out of your life. Not having a relationship with my 19 aunts and uncles (including spouses) was tough at first, just like not conversing with my 27 cousins (not including spouses) was hard at first. It gets easier over time; I don’t have Facebook or any other social media and honestly care not to hear the family gossip/goings on. It’s a relief! Trust me. They gravitate toward my sister for a reason, she has never seen a bottle of wine she couldn’t finish, when consequences do not exist, you continue your college days well into your late thirties.
2. Join groups and clubs to fill in your time but be wary of the folks who inhabit them. I made friends with William, thought I was friends with the Sith Lord, Sue, Terry (rip), Jared and others…. Boy was I wrong. I changed my voter registration to No Party Preference and viola, suddenly contact was cut off by the above group. Sith Lord and I were a 2 lunch dates a week kind of friends, then it was over. Sue walked right past myself and a friend at a political function last year. I know she recognized and saw me, because she turned her head quickly as to not make eye contact. Jared? I wrote him a letter of recommendation to be Executive Director of the County Party; he got the job and had no more use for me. Oh, he and the above cast of characters ran a fraudulent voter registration program… kinda sounds like a Democrat operation, right? All William and I were to them were errand boys. Oh, the kicker, they gave Jorge Riley an award after he was arrested for his role in storming the capital on January 6th and filming and posting it to the internet. Riley is the only person there that day that admits to purchasing a weapon specifically for the event. Riley never assisted with GOTV calls, or precinct walking, and there were rumors of having kid(s) out of wedlock and not being the greatest about paying support… but hey, at least he is registered Republican! My wisdom? Look at folks in volunteer groups with a jaundiced eye, you are likely just cannon fodder to them.
3. Limit your time in front of the TV. This one is easy; I harp on it a lot. Most of the shows on TV are behind society’s decay this day and age. Rioting when you don’t get your way, sleeping around while married, and viewing fantasy as real life are big problems. Folks, the real world, is not depicted on the TV, it’s fantasy land. Nowadays, TV consists of people screaming hot takes, whether it’s politics, sports, or gossip to get higher ratings. The problem is, it also gets whackos to do irrational things, such as killing Charlie Kirk, killing the Democrat elected in Minnesota and injuring another, attempting to kill Trump… the list could go on. TV, as a whole, is very unhealthy right now. Matt Dowd (colossal loser btw) said dumb stuff on TV and that indirectly led to Charlie Kirk being murdered. Sure, Dowd denies all culpability, but in my mind, he is just as guilty as the shooter. My wisdom? I cancelled cable 8 years ago after a bad breakup with a girlfriend. The first couple weeks were a little tough, then I realized that I do not miss it. Better yet, I came to realize my life was revolving around “what was on TV” as opposed to dealing with the real world. I’m better for it; you will be too.
4. Limit your use/consumption of vices. This one is pretty simple, but it almost got me. Gambling, drinking, and drugs are all bad for you. All three are very expensive hobbies to take up and will lead to wrecked lives. I have a friend whose parents dissolved their marriage after 30 years due to one person’s gambling addiction. She literally spent all the money from both paychecks each month. They couldn’t pay the mortgage. They were a retired prison guard, and retired state worker. They had money, not broke folks trying to “double their paycheck on red.” Drugs are a rough habit and got my sister in deep legal trouble. I failed the bar exam, if you know, you know.
5. Be true to yourself. Again, this sounds simple, and it is, yet I know several folks who refuse to do it. Being true to yourself just means be who you are, don’t try to be someone you are not. This is the root cause of 90-day Guy’s “mental health issues.” When you tell a different story to each person you see and take on a different persona in every room you walk into it’s very hard to keep the story straight. Worse yet, you stumble up and tell the wrong person the wrong story contradicting what you said in the past. Imagine the mental gymnastics going on in his head, constantly wondering what story he told who and how to keep the gimmick going. My wisdom? Be who you are, quit trying so hard to be someone you are not, and don’t you dare blame mental health.
6. Stop blaming other people for your own mistakes. I know it’s easy and fun to blame a person who is not in the room. Heck it’s even in style these days. These people are the worst; it’s never their fault, always someone else’s. I have witnessed these folks blaming every friend they have, even their own spouse, for something that is their fault. They are insecure and love pointing the finger. They think it’s a genius idea, but they couldn’t be more wrong. My wisdom? If they are throwing other people under the bus in front of you or have nothing good to say about other people in front of you, you are getting the same treatment from them when you aren’t in the room. Proceed with caution.
7. Stop comparing yourself to other people. One thing I have found out is the “very hot girl, with the boyfriend” both seem so happy. You imagine that you want that for yourself. Then you find out they are not happy at all. Outside of the bedroom, and her being hot to show off like a trophy, they are not happy at all. I noticed a couple at my gym, they seemed happy and close. Well, she is pregnant and now he doesn’t look so happy. I am sure things will work out (pun not intended) but the lack of rings on either’s finger tells me they gambled in the bedroom and got (un)lucky? And as a result, they will be parents and may not be ready or so much in love anymore. That person driving the expensive car? Well, they likely have a very high car payment each month, how long can they afford the payments? The guy who claims to have a huge bank account, yet his card is declined when paying for lunch/dinner? Yeah. My wisdom? 2008 taught us a lesson, we didn’t learn (or is it lear?) anything.

People were living a lie; it has started again. Be happy with what you have or better yourself. You never really know how happy that other group of people is.
8. Don’t dwell or even remember the past in your life. You can learn from it but bringing up things in a sense of woulda, shoulda, or coulda is not healthy.
It’s also very irrational. Gas was cheaper last week. Well, you may not have needed it last week. Ditto with food and other items, it’s in the past let it go. Dwelling on that doesn’t change anything. Life events happen; regret should never be a thing. My wisdom? 2 things. When I failed the bar exam, the best advice I got was from someone I barely knew, he said “get into a car with a gas pedal, no mirrors, and no brake pads.” Why? Keep moving forward in life, don’t look back and do not stop. Dwelling on the past likely leads to anger, hatred, and other unnecessary things. One thing I live by is “a setback is a set up for a comeback.” Don’t make the same mistake. Rebuild your life and things will be fine. My favorite thing about this came up a couple weeks ago. My old roommate called and reflecting on our past in college he said “man you should have approached ______ she was gung-ho about you, and you passed? How come.” My response was simple, I was fixated on someone else at the time, enough said. As far as had I approached her, let’s just say everything worked out. She is a specialty nurse who works in SF, makes quite a bit of money and has 3 kids. Seems like a no brainer, right? I screwed up right? Wrong. Sure, the money would be great, kids would be great, I would be miserable living in that area. I would never have crossed paths with the friends I made in politics or church in this area where I live. That is why I do not look back on my life and psychoanalyze everything. I think for myself, I do not need to impress my friends.
9. Get God in your life.

No, I’m not saying to start quoting Scripture or standing on the side of the road trying to “spread the word of God.” It’s about right vs wrong and good vs evil. If you have some sort of religious guidance in life, you will see that what I am preaching in this blog is pure common sense.
The Chief
January 2026 Update
Here’s some things that I’m involved with over the next several months.
Annulment
The year started with attorney Mario doing absolutely nothing. After my girl bugging him for a few weeks, she was finally told that he was waiting on his second payment before doing any more work on her case. (The psychologist had given him the final report on December 9th of last year. The proverbial ball has been squarely in Mario’s court since then.) She reminded him that he had already been paid. She looked it up and this happened in the first week of October. Mario verified it in his records and confirmed that he had his first two installments and thus, finally has set to work. Mario is finalizing witness statements and has promised to get us a court date next week.
Mario has the same ethics as a north Idaho contractor, as long as money is flowing then he works, when the account gets paid too far forward, then he stops and goes on to something more lucrative. It’s cash flow baby, not completion that matters.
Anyway, we are five months into what should have been a six month legal process.
Taxes for 2025
My tax appointment with the local CPA is February 2nd. I am currently missing two documents. I have requested both but whether they arrive by the end of January is unknown.
One that is causing me consternation is CalSTRS. They managed to split one retirement income into three Form 1099’s. I am unable to get any numbers on the retirement income that was collected at the beginning of 2025 since that was treated as my wife’s income. Oh, and just in case you were wondering, they updated their computer system in September and deleted all online accounts. Since my wife was reported as deceased in April, her SSN is blocked from creating an account in their new system. I don’t particularly mind this, but they wouldn’t give me the numbers over the phone when I called. Instead, I had to get a special form off their website and then request the information. (of course, the proper way to return their form was via fax. Like who else uses a fax nowadays?) They didn’t even have her 1099 scheduled to mail to her address on record. Typical California government B.S.
Ring by Spring
After the tax mess is put behind me, I will pivot to getting the requisite diamond ring. I was really hoping that she would opt for a ruby but since I already bought one of those for her, she said that she wants a diamond ring. Yes, dear. I had planned to get the ring at D.J.’s in Woodland but since I have been excused from the big wedding in February, I have no plans to head that way. I found a place in Coeur d’Alene that will probably get my business instead.
May Flowers
If the good Lords wills; I will head to the land of 7,000 islands in May. I plan to be there about six weeks. We will do the blessing ceremony while I’m there. I’m sure we will have a discussion about whether to report said ceremony to the government but likely won’t because it will make us ineligible for the K1 visa option. Thus, look for the reenactment of the blessing ceremony stateside in 2027. If I lack the finances in May, then the backup time will be in July.
On the Home Front
Currently, I am taping the sheetrock in the garage. I have been working on the north wall. I don’t really know what I am doing but my goal is to make it look better and then hit it with a primer coat of paint.
Additionally, I am trying to critter proof the place while all the insects are dormant.
My other goal is to waterproof the wall between the guest room/craft room and the garage. Due to the lack of our contractor’s concrete skills, the garage drains to the center of the slab and not out of the door openings as it should. Every time a vehicle enters the garage after driving in rain or snow, all the water dripping from the underside runs toward the wall and is absorbed by the sheetrock. If there is enough water, it also goes under the wall and pools in the wall area. I can make an argument that a floor drain might help but putting one in without messing up the floor coating in the garage is more money than I can afford right now. Thus far the winter has been mild, and I’ve put enough caulking down that it should be ok … but we will see.
Almost every room in the house is missing some trim or in need of more caulking, especially around the door frames and windows.
The following work still needs to be done:
- Trim around tongue and groove ceilings
- Backyard fence
- Minisplit in garage—leak fix
- Bridge between second floor of house and garage
- Vent hood in house is not retracting properly
- Storage and organization in the garage
- Complete closet in the house
- Upstairs closet in garage needs barn door
- Complete stairwell in garage
So, as you can see, I have many irons in the fire. My girl gets top billing but there is much to keep me busy.
Trump Slashes Credit Card Interest to 10% … That’s a bad thing
How is it a bad thing you ask? Easy, credit counseling, not credit interest rate cuts are needed. One thing I do agree with Sen Elizabeth Warren on is banks and credit companies take advantage of some of the most downtrodden and down on their luck individuals. They also prey on folks who should not even have a card to begin with.
Folk’s it may sound anti-business, but I do not think it’s right for a credit card company to be on a college campus hawking its products. Students, by and large, do not have an income, this is purely designed as a trap. Give them a card with $500 or so limit, get them to charge a bunch of fast food and booze, then tell them the minimum payment is all that’s required. Then when they hit the limit, either raise it, or charge over the limit fees. Then the higher interest kicks in and the minimum payment doesn’t even touch the principal. Countless lives have been ruined by these cards. Adults, families, and college age people by the way, credit cards do not discriminate.

So why is it bad to lower interest rates? It’s temporary relief, not the answer to the question. We are, in essence, rewarding bad behavior. I know some folks will be able to pay these cards off, but many more should also be closing them out. Pay in full and close them out? HA. This feels like an excuse to keep people spending once paid off, due to low interest rates compared to what they were paying. Not everyone needs to go to college and not everyone needs a credit card.
What do people need?

Credit counseling. Its not allowed in school as part of a budget class because it was deemed racist by the older generation. Not sure how budgeting is racist, but that maneuver has created a massive issue with the younger and some older generations. Credit cards, especially store cards, are far too easy to come by. While I do not think the interest rate should be allowed to touch 35%, I am not sure what the maximum should be.
On cards, I stick to what Dave Ramsey says; in essence you do not and should not need one. If you get one or more, like I have, be sure to pay them off in full each month, never spending more than you should. Differentiate between a need and a want. Sure, the points or miles are cool, but no one has gotten rich of credit card points… no one. Sure, it’s nice to earn a couple few hundred a year, but I do not have credit cards for that reason. Yes, its true people who get credit cards often overspend to earn extra “points” just remember folks 5% in rewards is $.05 per dollar spent, it’s not like you are coming out ahead.
My bigger issue is Donald Trump cannot do what he wants to do legally. Sure, he can sign an Executive Order, but will it stand the test of time? It appears to me to be blatantly unconstitutional. Time will tell, I guess.
My final thoughts are why do we no longer teach people about credit? Dave Ramsey is spot on when it comes to this. It’s the same with pay day lenders, pawn shops, and hard money lenders. Folks need to know what they are getting into, in the form of a class, via the internet or in person. Folks need to know how these financial vehicles work and what they could end up paying, not in the form of legal mumbo jumbo on their bill.
The Chief
Trump had a Good Day (01/07/26)
Bloggers note: No way was this going to be posted the day I sent it to William due to an earlier blog submission. Any changes after today will create a retraction to this story.
The day didn’t start well as a woman was killed by ICE Agents in Minneapolis, Minnesota. I will state I am never happy to hear anyone getting killed by authorities. There is more to this story, I am sure. If the ICE agent was in the wrong throw the book at him; however, I have a sneaky suspicion the person no longer with us was no saint in the matter.
On to the good parts.
First Trump is going to ban defense corporations from using government funds to buy back stock and pay dividends unless they make serious changes to manufacturing capacity and research. Here is some info below….
President Donald Trump said he would move to block U.S. defense contractors from paying dividends or repurchasing shares unless they significantly increase spending on manufacturing capacity and research, remarks that sent shares of major arms makers lower.
In a social media post Wednesday, Trump also called for sharp limits on executive compensation at defense companies, saying pay should be capped at $5 million until firms construct what he described as “NEW and MODERN Production Plants.” He argued that contractors are failing to produce and maintain military equipment quickly enough.
Defense companies “are currently issuing massive Dividends to their Shareholders and massive Stock Buybacks, at the expense and detriment of investing in Plants and Equipment,” Trump wrote. “This situation will no longer be allowed or tolerated!”
Folks to put it lightly, this needs to happen, and I hope it does. By no means am I insinuating that we should be stockpiling for war, we do need increased capacity to build war machines faster and more efficiently. The bottom line is that times are far different from fifteen years ago. We must be vigilant that war could break out in the not-too-distant future. Folks, the 90-day people amongst us will be angry but why should our taxpayer dollars go towards bloated executive compensation, stock buybacks, and dividends? That tells me we are being grossly overcharged. Why is it that everything to the older generation must be based on the almighty dollar and how big my bank account is? To be clear, I am not saying, and neither is Trump, they shouldn’t be allowed to make money, but look at the profits these companies are churning out.
More from Hegseth…
The criticism fits a broader theme of the Trump administration’s approach to the defense industry. In November, Defense Secretary Pete Hegseth criticized what he described as a slow and inefficient procurement system, arguing that weapons programs are often over budget, delivered years late and sometimes outdated by the time they reach the field.
Over budget, years late, and obsolete is not going to win too many wars.
The second thing is he wants to ban private equity/institutional investors from buying homes.
President Donald Trump said he would ban Wall Street investors from buying single-family homes in an effort to ease the affordability crisis that’s plaguing the housing market.
“For a very long time, buying and owning a home was considered the pinnacle of the American Dream,” Trump said in a Jan. 7 post on the social media site Truth Social. “I am immediately taking steps to ban large institutional investors from buying more single-family homes, and I will be calling on Congress to codify it. People live in homes, not corporations.”
Institutional investors, such as Blackstone, have been reliably buying and renting out single-family homes since the 2008 financial crisis locked many Americans out of the mortgage market.
First-time homebuyers are suffering as housing has remained scarce and increasingly expensive. They made up a record-low share of all buyers in the most recent year, and the average age of a first-time buyer jumped to 40, according to an industry analysis.
Folks, I just turned 40. I have owned my home for over 10 years. I cannot fathom not being a homeowner until this age … but … the older generation has made it their mission to make it so my generation and the ones below it will never own a home. They started allowing these large corporations to buy homes with the only intention being to rent them out. In some places, like near Atlanta, entire communities are owned by these firms. They rent them out at top market rate, and when they are able, the rent is “raised to current market standards” regardless of their relationship with the tenant. Wouldn’t it make more sense to keep the rent increases manageable for a tenant you like, that will maybe take care of the property or at least not let it get run down? I would think so. As a result, it’s a “turn and burn” scenario for the renter. One of these outfits, Invitation Homes, bought a home about 5 doors down from me. The tenant has turned over 3 times in a 26-month period, and it currently sits unoccupied. The tenants also left a lot to be desired; the first was three generations of a Filipino family that moved in. Nothing against any race, but wouldn’t you consider it a bad sign 3 families are required to make rent each month? They quasi converted the garage into living quarters for the youngest family of 3. They lasted the longest. Next was a young Hispanic family, that lasted about 8 months. The last was a young black couple, they lasted about 2 months. In regard to the black couple, it sounded like the marriage was on ice and that was likely the reason for the short stay. As I note, it has sat vacant for about 5 months now. I predict it will sit for a while. The corporation can likely use the vacancy as some kind of write off, and they likely have the attitude of the 90-day guy and say “why take less than what we think its worth?”
The other big problem, first time and even not first-time homebuyers normally have a liquidity issue., They need to get the money together for the downpayment and sometimes have other contingencies … Selling their current home (if not a first-time home buyer). These corporations have none, their only ask is “where do we wire the money.”
These are both very good policies, with the second being probably my favorite of his term so far. Keep it up!
Chief
Oh, wait until I tell you about the healthcare issue in this country. BTW it ain’t Obamacare.
2026 Goals and Gripes
GOALS
My big goal for 2026 is to tie the knot with my special lady. Of course, I have a few obstacles to get out of my way first.
The biggest of these is to survive filing my 2025 taxes. Last year was a train wreck in terms of what it cost. I think this year will be better since I upped the withholdings. I will know February 2nd when I visit my tax man.
Then there is “the ring.” “One ring to rule them all …” comes to mind. My girl wants a diamond, I was hoping she would be happy with a ruby but have been overruled. I think I have a plan to get this done, but given the price of gold lately, this might be a pricey transaction. Such is life.
Then comes the ceremony. This will be a frugal event, but it will be great. The biggest issue is how to feed the guests. I have a venue in mind but of course my plan may not be hers.
By the time these things are ready, I figure it will be May. Then my last obstacle will be where to warehouse my dog for about six weeks. I have an idea, but I will see what happens. Frankly, this is the costliest part of going on a trip. If I can do better than $25 per day, then I will be happy.
GRIPES
As of this writing, I still have a few sour people trying to dump all over me and my girl. My mom doesn’t understand why I can’t find a white girl in the U.S. of A. She and some other family members have told me that it is even wrong of me to look. They literally have said that I should ignore seeking another relationship and God will bring someone in my life. I tried that with the first wife, and it took over 20 years. Translation, be alone and happy you’re not married. Why is it that married people keep telling single ones to be happy they aren’t married. Sounds to me like they have impaired judgement in selecting a life partner not me. I loved being married and want to do it again.
As always, zero people have put forth zero suggestions as to who I should pursue for marriage. Even back when my parents asked me to divorce my first wife, they had no suggestions as to who could do a better job. The bottom line is that they just like to find fault, point out what they feel are the shortcomings of others, and tear down others that they find inferior. How this builds them up, I’m not sure.
I had weird conversation with my sister the other day. I tried to explain my relationship with my girl and said that if the church is in charge of marriage, then I am walking on solid biblical ground in our relationship. She got hostile and denied that either the church or State was in charge of marriage. Instead, she claimed it was the Bible. The Bible in a vacuum with no institution underpinning it!
I tried to say that God had put the Church in charge of marriage, and she flat out denied it, stating that I was wrong. (I am most certainly correct. See Ray Sutton’s book Second Chance.) Then, she started to accuse me of adultery and began to lecture me that if I went to a Bible believing church then I would know the truth. She had gone over the logical cliff by then and kept going. I was sure the Roadrunner would pop up any second with the sign reading “Gravity” but he never materialized.
Good grief!
God created four governments and marriage must belong to at least one. Here are the choices of biblical government: Self, Church, State, Family. I believe that Christ has given marriage to the church.
My former church believes that marriage belongs primarily to the government and in a secondary capacity to the church. They would deny this but look at how they act. Deeds are louder than words; especially, when the actions don’t align with the words.
This example is true, but I am changing the names and some minor details because they don’t matter to the point I am trying to make.
Steve and Laura joined the church several years ago. They have three small children. Steve was highly regarded by the clergy and was a promising young guy that they wanted to make into an Elder in the congregation. It didn’t happen but …
As time when on, Steve started seeing Zelda, a coworker, on the side. The wife found out and Steve moved out to cohabitate with Zelda. Laura files for divorce. Then the church holds a trial and excommunicated Steve. Once the divorce is finalized in the family law court, Laura is then pronounced from the pulpit as eligible to remarry as the innocent party in the relationship.
Why did the church defer to State action? You can only conclude that marriage belongs to the State. The State gives you a marriage license and licenses officiants so marriage must belong to them. The church has a minor and secondary role in marriage. In fact, a church is really not necessary to get married, it’s just a tradition that the State allows.
Thus, a church that gives lip service to Sola Scriptura doesn’t really believe it. If they believed the Church is biblically charged with administering marriage, they would not wait for the State. State action is irrelevant. They would not wait for Laura to file for divorce. They would try Steve without waiting. Furthermore, they would have simultaneously pronounced judgment on Steve and announced Laura, as the innocent party, eligible to remarry.
Biblically, the State has no part in marriage and until about 1900, they didn’t. Only when local governments began seeking additional income did licensing marriage become a thing. It was originally for the purpose of taxing marriage that it began to be licensed. But now that the church allowed the State to take over marriage, does the current situation exist.
Folks, just because this happened doesn’t make it right, but when your church denies the applicability of biblical law to the State, what do they have left? Such clergy agrees with Gavin Newsom that they are nonessential workers. This is how you know, no matter how nice the pastor might be, that in the final analysis that he is a hireling and not really a shepherd.
Once the State takes something away from the Church, it always belongs to the State.
Folks, the devil gets lots of credit in our society for taking stuff away from the church, but the truth is even more sinister, the church simply cedes the ground to the devil and usually without a fight. You know how you always get mad at Republicans for surrendering to Democrats and getting nothing in the bargain, ditto for the church. Unilateral Capitulation.
People that believe marriage belongs to the church are happy that I have found someone to love. Those that think marriage belongs to the State think I’m a notorious sinner because I assert that I don’t need to wait on the government to get their paperwork caught up with reality to date my girl or, gasp, marry her.
Oh, the other issue involved in my situation is that one part of the body of Christ doesn’t recognize any part of the body but their own denomination. The Apostle to the Gentiles was clear that all the parts are knitted together by the Holy Spirit but one body. Again, my former church claims to be Sola Scriptura but doesn’t believe this either. They want the right to sit in judgement over a church in another country because their method of baptism or whatever isn’t the same as theirs. BFD.
Folks, when you impose any presuppositions onto the Bible, be they cultural or eschatological, you will never rightly divide the Word of Truth. Your presuppositions get in the way.
In about a year, this will all get sorted out. When it does, you will find me standing near Charlie Kirk, Mark Steyn, and a few theologians that are or should be household names. I’m not right, I’m Really Right. I’ve stated this before; I have a plan, I’m working the plan, and it will be alright in the end. Just give me the grace to get there.
The Mental Health Card was a Lie
The 90-Day Guy lied. I have irrefutable evidence of his lie. Mental health is not a sympathy card and f**k you if you are using it as one.
How do I know he is lying? An aunt of mine who worked as a primary care doctor, and a surgeon, was over for Christmas. I asked for her expertise on this subject.
I told her what he had told me, that he told his doctor he was suicidal and had even picked out the knife to kill himself. She said the doctor is obligated at that point to make a call to the health and human service or related county/state department. She added that her medical malpractice insurance would not pay out if he had killed himself and she didn’t notify the correct channels. She went on to say he would be required to see a specialist for an evaluation. I told her he went once or twice then quit going, for money reasons. It’s always money with him, all the time. She told me that’s a lie also, as the appropriate channel/group would have forced him to attend, again being suicidal is a big deal this day and age with all the mass shootings done by them.
I further prodded, William will tell you it’s what I do, and her further responses crystalized his lying. She said mental health is a huge thing right now and most insurance covers it 100%. This is due to different laws passed as result of these shootings/killings. She said she had a feeling about what he did, I let her speak freely. Full disclosure, she is from Illinois, but I feel the laws/regulations on the books are likely similar or the same to California, where I am based. She said I can guarantee he went to an urgent care doctor, someone who is not his primary care doctor, he went in wanting to be diagnosed with a mental condition, and he won. Her words and I quote “he squealed to a doctor who is not his own and got put on a pill that will not fix his issue, it’s a here you go drug.” It’s a cover your butt, here you go, I guess you have a condition because you say you do. He went to an urgent care doctor because the doctor has plausible deniability, he can claim he sees a ton of patients each day, insured or uninsured he doesn’t know. It’s a free pass. That doctor was done with him after payment was processed that day, he got what he wanted.
He claims its anxiety when my phone’s alert for a call is coming in or a text is incoming bothers him; however, the sounds at the local casino do not. He gets off on things like this; it’s a sympathy card to him. It’s wild. When things do not go his way, it’s a mental health thing, yet he seeks no treatment. He is a liar.
There you have it folks, it’s been proven, truth always wins out. If you claim mental health and are lying about it, you are the lowest of the low. Actually, I’ll use a term the young people use: SYBAU … it’s an acronym for shut your bitch ass up. People with mental health issues need our help, not people who want to fake it.
The Chief
They Want Me Back or Else
If you’ve ever changed cell phone carriers, insurance companies, or anything else that uses your wallet as a monthly income stream, you know that they won’t let you leave without some type of protest or incentive to stay with them. Tried cancelling a credit card? Ditto.
What about when you leave a church?
Yep, they will contact you with a we want you back letter too. I got a “Are you sure?” letter emailed to me following my departure from my former church.
Note: in the quotation below, reference to “the Session” is the church board responsible for discipline.
My response in part was:
I feel very violated by the tactics used by the Session. The Session has broken the trust that I had with the church, interjected itself into a situation with zero biblical cause, and attacked my character by its actions. It acted in a heavy-handed and prejudicial way that was completely unnecessary. If you guys really cared about me, then the Session would never be involved. It is the wrong mechanism to use if helping me was really your intention. Furthermore, the Session has become an immovable barrier to any hope of my reconciliation with Providence.
I then asked to be removed from their membership rolls.
I thought this was the end of the matter but then got another follow-up email.
The latest email asserts the church’s right to intervene in my life. They go on to accuse me of breaking my membership vow before God because I don’t like the way they handled their inquiry of my life. The letter asserts that I must submit to their inquiry and any subsequent discipline. They then say that I can’t resign until they decide that I can. The letter then concludes with an invitation to repent and show up at their next meeting.
And they wonder why I said their tactics were heavy-handed? The letter is clear that I submit or risk hell fire and judgment, their judgment anyway.
Again, I don’t want to start down a path that is likely a prelude to a witch hunt.
We’re on another witch hunt, looking for evil wherever we can find it
Off on a tangent, hope the Lord won’t mind it
Another witch hunt, takin’ a break from all our gospel labor
On a crusade, but we forgot our saberWitch Hunt by Petra (1985)
If someone there had or has a concern, then I was willing to answer their questions, but repeatedly said that I don’t want to get involved with the disciplinary board of the church. I have attempted to avoid that and told several of its members that I do not wish for their formal involvement in my personal life. Yet that is their unwavering demand.
It is funny that their letter quotes Matthew 18 in defense of their actions. If you read the denomination’s Book of Discipline, the church board is exempt from following Matthew 18 where it says
15 Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. 16 But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. 17 And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.
When the church board initiates proceedings, as in my situation, they conveniently skip over verses 15 and 16 and jump straight to 17.
What “trespass” have I committed? They don’t know but there has to be one somewhere.
Who came to me to complain about a “fault.” Nobody.
Thus, nobody subsequently came with two or three witnesses before going before the church. Nope, we just jump to the last step. Again, I have not been accused of anything but surely, I must be guilty of something.
And then they wonder why I have an issue with their tactics!
I have done nothing wrong, but the presumption is that I have and these guys need to get to the bottom of it so they can straighten me out.
This is a no-win scenario. This is the exact reason that I resigned my membership.
Furthermore, in issues of relationships, marriage, and divorce, the board does not believe in the right of the church to oversee these matters but defers to the State. They only affirm the actions of the State.
The following is a real example; I have changed the names.
Joe and Jane were a married couple at the church. Joe started seeing another woman on the side. The church board put Joe through the discipline process and ended up excommunicating him. As all this was happening, Jane initiated divorce proceedings. Later, Jane began dating another man in the church. The Board scolded Jane and her new boyfriend for dating. Months later, the family law court granted Jane’s petition for divorce. The board then announced that Jane was eligible to remarry. Now she could be public about seeing her new boyfriend.
Folks, if marriage is really the sole purview of the church, then why wait to say Jane was eligible to remarry? Why not a concurrent pronouncement with excommunication her unfaithful husband? Why wait on the State?
Biblically, why must the church wait for the State? What biblical right does the State have being involved in the marriage relationship? Just wondering. Oh, and please don’t give me Romans 13 as your answer. That’s the same B.S. used to justify the Covid shutdown and a host of other acts of tyranny by the government.
Kenny Rogers famously said,
“You got to know when to hold ’em, know when to fold ’em.
Know when to walk away and know when to run”
The Gambler (1978)
I’ve tried to walk away but somehow; I don’t think they will willingly let me go.
The “Fed” Lowers Interest Rates…. Stupidly
So, the Federal Reserve Board of Governors agreed to lower interest rates yesterday for the third time this year. If you are wondering what this is about or how it affects you, congrats you are in the right place.
In cliff note terms what this means is the following: Banks borrow money from the Federal Reserve; they pay the rate the “fed” sets as interest. Then the bank turns around and loans it to “you” in the form of a car loan, home loan, line of credit etc. You pay higher terms then the bank and they make money on the “spread.” So, for example, when rates were zero about 10 years ago, I got a home loan (mortgage) my interest rate is 4%. So, the bank borrowed the money for zero from the government and loaned it to me for 4% so they make 4% on the money I borrowed.
As a result, mortgage rates will drop as will vehicle loans etc.
Why is this stupid?
Fed Chair Jerome Powell didn’t do this on his own volition, President Trump has been saying he will fire and replace him with someone who will lower interest rates all year. The fed is independent of the presidency, but this president doesn’t adhere to that. Simply put, Trump wants what he wants and will stop at nothing to get there. He wants interest rates to go back to zero, basically where they were during his first term. The fed controls interest rates as a check to keep inflation in order, most would agree inflation is still very high. We also have economic uncertainty, layoffs are up, and consumer spending (credit cards) is at never-before-seen levels.
Again, why is this stupid?
It helps out very few people actually. Sure, if you have a mortgage that started about 7 years ago or less, you likely can refinance to a lower rate, that’s a good thing. Ditto for auto loans and home equity credit lines. If you are a saver, you get whacked as your bank will lower interest rates paid on your savings account. To be fair no big bank pays much as far as savings, but my online bank has gone from 4% to 3.3% in the span of 3 months. Don’t cry for me, listen to my point in the following paragraph.
Trump wants corporations and the government to refinance their debt, not pay it off. Trump’s corporation has billions in debt. Look it up, as it comes due corporations do not pay it off; instead, they simply “recast” it and refinance at the going rate at the time. For the last 7 years or so, it meant much higher interest rates. Lowering interest expense means more to borrow, more to expand that hotel, or build that casino, or buy a competitor. It benefits corporations, not you the individual. Large corporations have popped up in the last 10 years buying up single-family homes and renting them out. Avalon Bay, and Invitation Homes are two of them. Very low-cost debt allows them to pay over asking price, and there are no contingencies. It’s hard for a person to buy a starter house when these corporations exist largely to buy up entire communities of homes. Sure, you could get approved for a lower interest rate to try to buy a home, but good luck.
If you are a saver, aka you follow the Dave Ramsey, Caleb Hammer, FIRE etc. movements, you lose purchasing power as the interest you earn in the bank will be a rate far lower than inflation. The destruction of the savings rate is exactly what Donald Trump wants. It’s a way to discourage this behavior. There is no benefit to the economy of me having $85,000 in the bank earning what will eventually be about 1% a year.
So, what is my point here?
Trump’s big thing is the stock market. He, like many others who are addicted to the TV, thinks the stock market is the economy. When it goes up, its great, when it goes down bad. 90-day guy believes stocks only go up, and Republican administrations are the best for the stock market. Think again, it’s the opposite. You’re better off in a Democrat presidency, Republican congress time. The problem is the only place to get a return of any kind when interest rates are that low is the stock market. This is dangerous because in most circles, folks believe the market has major external forces that dictate returns for those in the know. Why do you think people like Marjorie Taylor Greene go to congress flat broke and emerge as millionaires several times over? If you think they have good luck, God bless you! Just to add, for every Marjorie Taylor Greene or Nancy Pelosi, there are quite a few big losers in the market. Buyer beware… pun intended. I strongly oppose investing every dollar into the market, always keep money in a savings account, but to each is own.
In closing, please consider this word of warning. What about Donald John Trump screams he has your best interests in mind when it comes to money and budgeting? Think about it, I’ve mentioned his corporate debt, how about the spending while he was/is president? Doesn’t inspire much confidence huh? He loves debt, and cheap debt at that. You do not have as much money as he or his family does, rates will eventually go up again. Ask Rite Aid or any other corporation that went bankrupt. Nothing is forever and you don’t have the knowledge or insider status to compete in the stock market with these folks. Look at the number of billionaires in Trump’s cabinet, or any cabinet of past presidents for that matter. They know more than you and have more connections than me and you. In the long run this “great bull market” will run out of gas.
Beware of the prophet seeking profits. Also, know that a fool and his money are soon parted, don’t risk more than you can afford to lose.
PS. Anyone think it’s odd that folks you don’t know to be financially literate are now speaking about investing in crypto and other whacky things like meme coins? These are folks who never spoke about investing in the past. There are several in my circle. It has me worried. I understand the 90-day types being happy. They consume so much TV they live in a self-induced echo chamber. But what worries me is the folks who are not investor types starting to get into the game, especially some of the folks I know who are not exactly smart.
The Chief
Rampant Fraud … My Solution
I’ve been thinking about the below Editor’s Note,
Editor’s Note: One issue that is not refuted in the above is stolen identities and organized crime. I suspect the bulk of fraud is via this mechanism. In my experience, government is ill equipped to deal with fraud as the presumption of any government program is that the applicant is eligible.
William is in fact correct. Fraud is likely coming from stolen identities, organized crime, and professional crooks. The honest reality is that the fraudsters are always several steps ahead of normal people. Think of it like this: to keep the honest person honest you put a lock on your front door. However, the burglar doesn’t care that you have a lock and has a device to pry said door open. Bottom line, if the bad guys want it, they will achieve their goal. In this case, the fraud is committed by folks who know how to avoid detection and may even have people on the inside doing the dirty work for them.
I am proposing a solution, unlike many in the Republican Party, I know I want to “throw this out there.” It’s not perfect but here goes.
Universal Basic Income.
Yep, the 90-day guy called it the “stupidest thing he has ever heard. Saying that’s socialism.” The only thing he knows about socialism is that Sean Hannity rails against it. He is loyal to the folks at Fox News. He describes his generation and Republicans in general pretty well, be against everything. Folks voting NO on everything is not a long-term strategy. This mentality is what led us to Obamacare. When asked for his plan, he shrugged. With the amount of TV he consumes, he should know we are facing a serious crossroads in our country.
Think of it this way, we have so many government programs: Section 8, SNAP, disability, unemployment, welfare, just to name a few, what if we replaced them all. Replace them with 1 federal government program. Universal Income isn’t going to be $100,000, not even close. Income would be verified by the IRS annually with your tax return. If you find work and earn an income over ____ you come off the program. Steal my identity and apply? You will be rejected because I earn too much income. This would be verified by the IRS not an administrative law judge. Lose your job during the year? You would have documentation of that to be sent in with your application! To quote Dave Ramsey, folks on UBI (Universal Basic Income) aren’t going to be seeing the inside of very many restaurants. This will probably be in the neighborhood of $35-55k a year depending on where you live, not work.
We have to start thinking differently about an ever-changing work environment. People are having their jobs outsourced overseas constantly. Stores close simply because they “aren’t making enough profit” AI and quantum computing are going to replace a lot of jobs. When workers retire, the replacement is hired for half or two thirds the salary to save money. This constant cutting of expenses as the basic structure of profit and loss statements does not bode well for the workforce long term.
Our workforce of the future needs to be viewed differently too. Some people are disabled and cannot work or cannot work full time. Others will lack a skillset to work. Let’s be real. When Schools and Universities are saying that graduating high school students (incoming class) only read at a 4th grade level, we have a real issue! That isn’t going to get better with time. That generation is going to be left toiling and twisting in the wind. We shut down our country for 3 years and it has consequences which are just now being felt. Many didn’t finish high school/college. Many students also picked up bad work habits due to the Covid shutdown. Most jobs do not get filled permanently. If they have something, it’s just on a temporary basis. Sadly, these items are basically uncorrectable. Automation is only going to eliminate more positions which again is making the population more and more unemployed. Elon Musk and Vivek Ramaswamy have both spoken about importing folks to the USA on H1-B? Visas to work here. Due to the structure of our educational system, that is the future of our workforce folks.
Paying for it? Well, this is the stumbling block. I’m too lazy to look it up as of press time but collapsing all the federal/state aid programs and their subsequent employees would free up quite a bit of cash to fund this. We do not know how much fraud is truly going on, but this collapses several programs into one program. Streamlines the process and makes it so theIRS will be annually verifying income. It may not be the answer, but I think it’s a start. I have also heard Mark Zuckerburg, and others discuss funding this with some of their own wealth, so there is that.
As far as the obvious Fox News comeback, what will stop people from just not working, or working for cash under the table? There isn’t, but I will say $35-50k is not a whole lot of money, so your lifestyle won’t be great. Much like my remark about food stamps, I highly doubt those folks are using them to buy a filet mignon.
Make the application in person only, verified by a government issued ID, and must have a bank account verified in their name. If they do not possess all three of these, sorry can’t help you. No judge to sign off, no paperwork mistakes. Income verified and viola. As mentioned above, IRS checked each year for fraud purposes. Get caught, you are arrested and permanently removed from the program. Check has to go to an address not a PO Box. Will it stop all fraud? No. Will folks on the program use the funds for illicit activities? Sure. The point isn’t to stop all fraud going on, that’s impossible. But my idea is to make it a lot more difficult, that’s all.
If you hate my idea…. May I respectfully ask for your submission?
The Chief
Editor’s Note: I don’t wish to speak directly to the merits of this idea, although collapsing the infamous social safety net into a handful of programs instead of the thousands of existing and overlapping programs being administered currently appears to have merit. I just want to remind you of the plans that Joe Biden had for the IRS. Biden wanted every financial transaction in the United States reported to and tracked by the IRS. The goal of the plan was that the IRS would become our financial Big Brother. Part of the proposal was that the IRS would eliminate income tax filing for individuals. At year end, they would either send you a tax bill or a refund for overpaid taxes. One reason for the program was to eliminate fraud (that it would boost tax revenue was assumed as well).
Let’s Play Global Thermonuclear War—Church Edition Part 2
This clear reference to the movie War Games (1983) should be rather obvious. The point of the movie was that when faced with nuclear war, the best move was not to play. Of course, the movie was made while Ronald Reagan was President. Liberals hated Reagan and thought him a warmongering “cowboy” for opposing the Soviet Union; a government that many of them admired. War Games got a very lengthy standing ovation when it premiered at the Canne Film Festival.
While invoking War Games might seem a stretch to some, my conclusion when analyzing my current conflict with my church was that there is a life lesson to be found in the idea that sometimes avoiding a confrontation is best. Anyone that is happily married knows what I mean.
I originally drafted this blog just a few hours before appearing before my church’s board. If you find me changing time tenses, that is probably why.

In their particular parlance, this group is called “The Session”. They are the judicial body of my local congregation. These are the guys that meet out justice as they see fit. Twice in the last year they have excommunicated members for adultery and followed it up by declaring the other spouse fit to remarry. Except for politicians and country music singers, adultery is usually viewed as something bad. Having this group taking an interest in my love life is not a good sign.
I have had friends excommunicated from their churches for dating women from the wrong or unapproved church denomination before. I have seen abuse of heavy-handed dealings with folks for just being honest that they wanted to leave and go to a different church. I have even seen pronouncements of excommunication for people that never attended services and were certainly never church members. My wife and I have also been beaten up by churches that we have attended in the past. I made a vow that I would never again yield any part of my life to one of these judicial boards or to a pastor in any church. I will never voluntarily put myself on any path that might ever lead to church discipline or excommunication, never ever!
I repeatedly told these guys that I am perfectly willing to discuss my relationship with my girlfriend over a meal at any local watering hole but that I do not want to appear before “The Session.” If I’m called before a judicial body to give an account of my personal life, then I’m in trouble. That seems obvious to me.
They keep saying that they “have a few questions” for me. Hey guys, you know where I live, you have my phone number, and email address. I’m retired and don’t have much of a life so I’m rather available for a casual lunch or dinner.
But No. It must be ASAP, and it must be before this body; then they say I have nothing to worry about! Guys, I wasn’t born yesterday. This cover story is not credible. If they want to speak with me, the church is having a Christmas potluck in a few days, why not ask me your questions there?
If I go to this meeting and then answer their questions, then obviously they will then draw a conclusion from the information that I provide, and then the next step is a determination. Determination is another word for rendering judgement. Any judgment issued will then include a follow-up to their conclusion to see if I’m obeying them or going a different way. If I go a different way, then it is implied that they will then jerk my chain and I will again have to appear before them. Thus, like most things in life, my appearance is not a destination but the beginning of a process with no clear or predefined endpoint. This sounds like politics to me.
Oh, what about Matthew 18: 15-17 about going to your brother if he has a fault. Well, that doesn’t apply. First, because I haven’t offended anybody in my congregation, unless not liking me dating someone is a crime, and second because there is an exception to this biblical mandate in the Book of Discipline. If “The Session” originates the charge against someone then the process in Matthew is not required.
Also, did you know that there is no Fifth Amendment in the Bible? Yep, you can be hung on the basis of your own words. So even if they don’t have anything on me when I walk in the door, they can hang me on the basis of what I say in their presence. Thus, the command to appear before them is a fishing license to find a charge to hit me with. To appear is to grant them a blank check to find a charge even where none existed before.
Oh, on a previous post on this subject, an anonymous comment was made that I did not allow on the blog just because it was not signed. Said comment quoted a verse in Proverbs. I would like to comment on that verse now.
Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety. Proverbs 11:14.
First, the verse is directed at leaders of men, would it be a stretch to think this is advice from one king (Solomon) to another (like maybe his sons). But let’s allow that all folks need counselors and see if it applies in this situation.
Are the men in my church that are on “The Session” my trusted friends that really know me and what’s on my heart?
Is this situation a meeting of equals?
Do I see these guys as my circle of counselors?
Nope. Just because someone knows my name does not make them my friend. My wife may have felt that way about everyone that she met, but I do not. I’ve had a handful of true friends in my life; probably about ten individuals. With the exception of the Sith Lord, who dumped me when I was no longer useful to him, I’ve kept the rest of them in my life. True, I don’t see my friends every day or even every year, but our lives are linked, and I trust them and our relationship goes on. When we are together, we pick up right where we left off the last time that we were together.
There is only one guy in my congregation that I am friendly with, and he is not on this board. He also does not know, or even want to know, all the nitty gritty details of my life. We have some things in common and as a result, spend time together. I would describe him as a casual friend.
This is not to say that I dislike the other men in my church; it’s that we have never gotten to know each other very well. We are not actively part of each other’s lives. It is something between presumption and hubris for them to claim to act as my counselors when I appear before them assembled as “The Session.”
No, in “The Session,” they are my betters, and I am the inferior person. This is not a meeting of Christian brothers, equals, or friends. By its very nature, this is an adversarial meeting.
When I walked into the meeting today, I greeted the four people in attendance and shook their hands. The guy from Boise didn’t make the meeting but after about a ten-minute delay, the other fellow finally logged in on Zoom. Once all five people were assembled, the meeting was opened. I was invited to join them at the table, but I did not. Instead, I announced that I was resigning my membership. One of the people then quipped, but you have to appear here because you’re a member. Then I said, “I’m not doing this” and left.
Just so you know, I spent the better part of a week crafting this long speech about my relationship with my girl and all the pertinent details that I was going to offer as a defense and I scrapped it completely. Yep, nine pages of reasoning and airtight logic that will never see the light of day unless I post it separately (which I currently have no plans to do).
So why just quit?
First, they are wrong and out of line. While true, I know I can never convince them of that or this blog post would never exist.
Second, I would rather part as casual friends than adversaries or combatants.
Third, this is a really small town, and we all need to continue to live here after this is over. Folks, most guys living here won’t believe it, but there are high schools in other states that have a bigger population than this town. 2,300 is not a lot of people to be rubbing shoulders with on a daily basis.
Fourth, why should I stay in a group that is hell bent on stringing me up? If I dodge the gallows this time, what will prevent them from trying it again in the future? If not me, then who will they go after next?
Lastly, the closer I got to this meeting, the more the scares of my previous dust-up in a Presbyterian church began to open. Unresolved wounds are the ones you carry the deepest hoping to suppress them. When they burst forth and the new situation is pumping vast amounts of salt into them, the more the pain is renewed and intensified. This steeled my resolve that I would not willingly enter into another opportunity for a church’s leadership to sit in judgement of me. Were my wife still alive, I believe she would support me in this feeling (of course, we’re here because she is not).
This whole thing is so stupid. The church has already lost about one third of their membership this year (this is a conservative estimate) and they want to cap off the year with my scalp too. They are bleeding members and money. Maybe they need to get a clue that some things are not right. Again, they can never be convinced of that and it’s not my job.
In summary, had they come to me as a fellow brother in Christ and not treated me as their inferior, I might be there next Sunday. They have wasted the greatest advantage that they once had, goodwill and trust. Sadly, that has been laid waste because they were too proud to ask me out for a casual meal and then speak their mind.