The Blog Father has written about online dating lately, so I wanted to share my experiences. Most online dating sites, I won’t say all are a cesspool. I tried it for about 2 months based on a friend telling me, “Everyone is on it.” She was right… Do I say really right? It was a sewer. Granted it was a free site so I should have known. It was also a Catholic one to boot. Folks, as has been written here, lots of folks are religious, lots also attend Sunday service, very few actually listen. Most, I think, just want the “hall pass” they think going to church provides for the sins of the week.
Here are the types you will encounter:
AI/ChatGPT created profiles: They are fake accounts run by likely men to be honest here. You can tell because the responses to your inquiries are tailored to fit what you are looking for. Oh yes, I work out daily… what’s my favorite exercise? Anything that makes me look good. Big red flag.
Working girls: These are the ones more than happy to send a scantily clad photo to you. Then they try to get the conversation off the platform that you’re on. Only Fans and other sites are where they want you to view their profile. Oh, it’s pay to play by the way.
Scammers: You know the play here. It’s I have a car bill totaling $1200 so I can’t come visit you. After they admit they don’t have a car. Then they can’t say the name of said car repair facility only that its “local.” Oh, and they send scantily clad photos as well to keep you on the line. Bear in mind, the photos you are getting are most certainly not the person you think you are interacting with, they were likely screen shotted off the internet. That’s right, they are using someone else’s image and likeness to try to hook you in.
People trying to cosplay someone else: I met up with a girl who I did like. I felt she felt the same about me. I added her on Facebook and quickly found out it was a scheme. She was playing her own version of the bachelorette. She even had photos of her “dates and asking the comment section what they thought.” Yep, full stop. I deleted said Facebook and dating website. I have no desire to compete with other men, and I am no trophy or prize to be won. Oh, and having to ask your female friends or a comment section what they think shows what amounts to an undeveloped brain. I do not care what your friends think, I want to know what you think.
Bottom line. Stay vigilant if online dating is for you, but as I stated above it’s a sewer and it has/takes all types. What is my remedy? Well, I do not really have one. I would say use your network plus friends and places you like. It is risky but I would rather play with the pool I know rather than the one I do not know. Being taken advantage of is not cool… thankfully I have not been.
The Chief
Editor’s Note: Thus far, between two dating websites, I have found one real human and at least seven fake accounts trying to play me. I have deleted my account membership from one website and the accompanying profile. In addition, I have cut down the personal information on the one remaining site. Not to say it’s better, just that the scammers are not as good as the previous site that I cancelled. Yesterday, I was able to identify the fraud by the third text exchange. This happened on two separate accounts in one day. The AI chatbot was by far, very close to getting away with it, but it doesn’t have the awareness to hide itself. Proof of life (i.e. that you are talking to a real person) will get harder as technology improves but it is a good first step. Proof of gender may very well be the second hurdle. If you saw some of the profile photos that I’ve seen, you would agree.
