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Minnesota Mayhem is the 2026 Campaign

Above: Minnesota’s Samali inspired state flag.

What you are seeing in Minnesota right now is the 2026 campaign. As usual, it’s right out of the Marxist handbook. This same plan of anarchy is currently being cloned in various parts of the United States and will roll-out nationwide in the next few months unless Trump and company squash it like a bug now.

Before I get to that, I have watched the video of the nurse dude being shot. Folks, the Babylon Bee’s Not the Bee has a good timeline of the incident.

The bottom line is that it was a righteous kill.

The guy interfered with a police action.

He did not comply with lawful orders given by law enforcement.

As a result of not obeying the police, they attempted to arrest him. He resisted more.

He was maced and they tried to get him on the ground and handcuff him. He resisted more.

As they were wrestling him to the ground, the gun became visible and reportedly discharged. Simultaneously to this, a law enforcement guy yelled, “Gun”. Then the guy was shot.

Once he was no longer a threat, then the law enforcement guys tried to administer first aid to the man.

The Siig pistol that the guy had in his possession is known to accidentally discharge when dropped. So, the nurse guy could have shot, the pistol may have fallen out of his holster and discharged, or a policeman could have gotten his finger on the pistol and the struggle made it go off, or the report of the first shot being from the man’s pistol is incorrect.

In the video, the law enforcement guy lined up his shot before firing. He aimed and then fired. Given that this situation was so high profile, I don’t think he would fire without knowing it was the proper procedure in this situation.

Oh, later this little nugget came out about the protestor.

CNN reporting that Alex Pretti broke a rib during a separate altercation with federal officers a week before he was fatally shot attempting to obstruct an immigration operation.

Oh, speaking of nurses, this nurse babe posted a series of videos on how to find ICE agents on dating websites and then poison them. She was rewarded with unemployment for her sage remarks.

Virginia Commonwealth University (VCU) Health and the VCU Police are investigating after a nurse at the hospital made a series of videos about fighting back against federal law enforcement.

VCU anti-ICE nurse references paralytic drug in video instructing healthcare providers to ‘sabotage’ agents

“Sabotage tactic, or at least scare tactic. All the medical providers, grab some syringes with needles on the end,” she said. “Have them full of saline or succinylcholine, you know, whatever. Whatever. That will probably be a deterrent. Be safe.”

Signal Groups

First, the part nobody explains but assumes that you know already. Signal is an app that can be installed on cell phones. (There is also a PC version.) You can communicate with individuals or groups via text message or video communications. All communications on Signal are encrypted. This is to ensure privacy. Signal is used because it provides encryption, is reliable, and is not owned by one of the large Silicon Valley tech companies. Large Silicon Valley tech companies are known for cooperating with Federal warrants and the degree of privacy their products provide is suspect in some circles.

I think the command-and-control stuff that you read about is run by people using laptops or desktop computers. The machinery behind the protests is based on military warfare tactics. These guys are well financed. I think their funding is separate from anything related to Somalia “refugees” and fraudulent businesses.

for more see: Cam Higby Exposes Real-Time Tracking of Federal Agents in Minneapolis

I hope to demonstrate many of my claims shortly. The following are all from the Facebook page Donald Trump For President.

Minnesota Lt. Governor a Leader of Protesters

“LAWYER UP”: Former DOJ Chief of Staff Issues Grave Murder Charge Warning to Lt. Gov. Peggy Flanagan

The legal walls are closing in on Minnesota’s Lieutenant Governor. Following the explosive revelation that Peggy Flanagan allegedly operated as a “dispatch admin” for the radical ICE-interference network under the handle “FlanSouthside,” one of the nation’s top legal minds has issued a chilling warning about her future.

The Felony Murder Warning

Chad Mizelle, former Chief of Staff at the Trump DOJ and Acting General Counsel at DHS, stated plainly that if the Signal chat is tied to the Alex Pretti shooting, Flanagan is in “serious trouble.”

Mizelle explained the “felony murder” reality: if you are involved in a conspiracy-in this case, interfering with federal ICE operations-and someone dies as a result, every participant in that conspiracy can be charged with murder.

Mizelle clarified that the law applies even if the person who died was a member of the group, like Alex Pretti. Being the “admin” of the coordination network makes the legal liability inescapable.

From “Direct Action” to Federal Indictment

As the dispatch admin, “Flan Southside” allegedly oversaw the real-time tracking and doxxing of federal officers at locations like McDonald’s and local apartment complexes, creating the violent friction that led to the fatal shooting.

Mizelle’s warning underscores that being a sitting Lieutenant Governor does not grant immunity for participating in a criminal conspiracy to obstruct federal law enforcement.

In a blunt message to the State Capitol, Mizelle advised, “LG Flanagan better lawyer up. She may have some federal agents who want to talk to her … “

The “ICE Watch” isn’t a game anymore-it’s a potential murder case. When the second-highest official in the state is caught running the switchboard for a mob that gets people killed, the federal government has a duty to act.

Minnesota State Representative in Leadership Role

THE RESISTANCE CONNECTION: Startling new revelations have emerged connecting the fatal shooting of Alex Jeffrey Pretti to high-level organizational efforts within the Minnesota state legislature.

Reports indicate that Pretti, a 37-year-old ICU nurse shot by federal agents on Saturday, was an active member of the anti-ICE “Signal” chats used to coordinate rapid responses and track federal agents across Minneapolis.

The Man Behind the Chat

State Rep. Alex Falconer: The freshman DFL legislator from District 49A has publicly admitted to leading these “rapid response networks”.

Falconer, who describes himself as a “community organizer at heart,” uses the Signal app to recruit residents into a “resistance network”.

Falconer has been vocal about his involvement, offering resources to help families “impede” ICE, providing legal help, and even offering to move cars for those afraid of being targeted while plowing apartment lots.

Members of Falconer’s Signal groups are instructed to send alerts when they see “suspicious vehicles” or known federal agents.

On the morning he was killed, news of the ICE operation near Nicollet and 26th was reportedly transmitted across these very rapid response networks, drawing protesters-including Pretti-to the scene.

While Falconer frames the groups as a way to “look out for one another,” federal critics argue these networks are being used to intentionally obstruct and harass officers carrying out lawful duties.

Representative Falconer’s open participation in these “resistance” chats has drawn intense scrutiny, as he concurrently serves on the Commerce and Education Policy committees.

As the BCA investigates the shooting, questions are mounting about whether state-level officials are using their positions to incite dangerous confrontations between citizens and federal law enforcement.

Meanwhile on Signal Groups

“THE FEDS ARE ALL IN HERE”: The Moment the Radical “ICE Watch” Signal Chat Realized They Were Infiltrated

The digital fortress of the radical left in Minneapolis is crumbling. Leaked screenshots from the encrypted Signal group “WARD 4 N MPLS RR ALERTS” reveal a state of absolute panic as agitators realized their “trusted” network for tracking federal agents had been breached by law enforcement.

At 11:13 AM, a user named “John Dough” dropped the bombshell that sent the group into a tailspin:”

The Feds are all in here.” This realization triggered a massive exodus, with dozens of participants- including users like “Gerbs,” “Big Dog,” and “Kovala Bear”-immediately fleeing the group.

Group admins like “Livid” desperately tried to lock down the chatter, pleading with members to move all non-essential messages to “patrol or community hubs.” They acknowledged that a “large amount of trolls” had infiltrated the chat, despite their claims of “actively monitoring” and keeping the network secure.

Before the mass exit, the chat was a breeding ground for radical threats. A user named “Communist Krusher” openly threatened to “snatch you up and take you to the lake” and throw people in, while others used slurs and told “trolls” that they would be “going to jail.”

The “Signal” for Obstruction

The “WARD 4” chat served as a primary dispatch for “Rapid Response” requests-the tactical coordination used to physically “impede” and “block” ICE and Border Patrol agents during lawful operations.

This infiltration follows the exposure of “FlanSouthside” (Lt. Gov. Peggy Flanagan) as a fellow Signal admin. The realization that federal agents are now inside these groups suggests that the “Criminal COVER UP” at the highest levels of the Walz administration is being systematically dismantled from the inside out.

With the “Feds” now monitoring their every move, the radical left’s ability to coordinate “direct action” and doxx federal agents in real-time has been severely compromised.

When the “revolution” is being live-streamed to federal agents, the game is over. The panic inside the Ward 4 Signal chat proves that these agitators know their “coordination” is a federal crime.

Minnesota is an Insurgency

Former Special Forces Warrant Officer gives his take on Minnesota protests: “What’s unfolding in Minneapolis right now isn’t ‘protest.’ It’s low-level insurgency infrastructure, built by people who’ve clearly studied the playbook.”

[As a former Special Forces Warrant Officer with multiple rotations running counterinsurgency ops -both hunting insurgents and trying to separate them from sympathetic populations-I’ve seen organized resistance up close. From Anbar to Helmand, the pattern is familiar: spotters, cutouts, dead drops (or modern equivalents), disciplined comms, role specialization, and a willingness to absorb casualties while bleeding the stronger force slowly.

What’s unfolding in Minneapolis right now isn’t “protest.” It’s low-level insurgency infrastructure, built by people who’ve clearly studied the playbook.

Signal groups at 1,000-member cap per zone. Dedicated roles: mobile chasers, plate checkers logging vehicle data into shared databases, 24/7 dispatch nodes vectoring assets, SALUTE-style reporting (Size, Activity, Location, Unit, Time, Equipment) on suspected federal vehicles. Daily chat rotations and timed deletions to frustrate forensic recovery. Vetting processes for new joiners. Mutual aid from sympathetic locals (teachers providing cover, possible PD tip-offs on license plate lookups). Home-base coordination points. Rapid escalation from observation to physical obstruction-or worse.

This isn’t spontaneous outrage. This is C2 (command and control) with redundancy, OPSEC hygiene, and task organization that would make a SF team sergeant nod in recognition. Replace “ICE agents” with “occupying coalition forces” and the structure maps almost 1:1 to early-stage urban cells we hunted in the mid-2000s.

The most sobering part? It’s domestic. Funded, trained (somewhere), and directed by people who live in the same country they’re trying to paralyze law enforcement in. When your own citizens build and operate this level of parallel intelligence and rapid-response network against federal officers- complete with doxxing, vehicle pursuits, and harassment that’s already turned lethal-you’re no longer dealing with civil disobedience. You’re facing a distributed resistance that’s learned the lessons of successful insurgencies: stay below the kinetic threshold most of the time, force over-reaction when possible, maintain popular support through narrative, and never present a single center of gravity.

I spent years training partner forces to dismantle exactly this kind of apparatus. Now pieces of it are standing up in American cities, enabled by elements of local government and civil society. That should keep every thinking American awake at night.

Not because I want escalation. But because history shows these things don’t de-escalate on their own once the infrastructure exists and their own once the infrastructure exists and the cadre believe they’re winning the information war.

We either recognize what we’re actually looking at -or we pretend it’s still just “activism” until the structures harden and spread.

Your call, America. But from where I sit, this isn’t January 2026 politics anymore.

It’s phase one of something we’ve spent decades trying to keep off our own soil.]

– Eric Shwalm

Liberals Hunting for Trouble

The Irony of the Minnesota Whistle-Blowers A viral video is calling out the total absurdity of the “resistance” in Minnesota, where activists are spending their days hunting down federal agents just to scream for attention. The message is clear: if you have to go looking for your “oppressors” in your car with a “cute little whistle,” you might not be the victim you claim to be.

Man says “Okay, so let me get this straight.

Liberals in Minnesota waking up every day, getting in their cars with their little cute whistles, hunting down ICE agents. And when they find said ICE agents, on their free will, they then interfere with federal agents, on top of trying to ID normal civilians because they think said normal civilian might be ICE agents. Wait, you’re oppressed how, again? Like, okay, wait, wait, let’s back up. You’re a victim how, again? Because, listen, my man, no time ever … Minnesota fatigue is real. No time ever in human history, people who were oppressed by the state or any government, at no time, did it ever occur to them, “Hey, let’s get in my car and let’s go find our oppressors. We’ll blow our whistles at them and honk at them. Over here, oppress me! Me, me, me, me, me, me! I’m oppressable!” Like, what the f** k? Somebody please make this shit make sense!”

My Thoughts

My point in posting this stuff is twofold, as always, big tech has a way of making this stuff go away, typically by removing it from the Internet or burying it via their search algorithms, and secondly to show context instead of just a pull quote in a vacuum.

This protest is well funded, well organized, and being replicated all over the country. This is a Marxist revolution on steroids. It very much reminds me of the domestic terror groups in the 1970’s that blew up police stations and really loved car bombings.

Trump has forced the Democrats to fight for their lives instead of just rollover like the rest of the Republicans that were ok with their extinction via unchecked immigration and the “Great Replacement”. I will say bluntly that if Trump fails, the Republic that was America is over. Will he get credit for saving the country? Nope, but he definitely can prolong its existence.

My final comment is that if Elon Musk had not defunded USAID, then tens of thousands of paid protesters would be torching the country right now and Congressional Republicans would be negotiating away our freedom to keep their lousy jobs doing nothing.

What’s Wrong with the Bible

Yep. I really dared to ask that question. Folks the book that everybody thinks they know probably doesn’t say what you think it does. In the last few years, I have been made aware of many fallacies and interpretive blunders that completely miss the point, often on purpose. Some errors are the result of false assumptions, some faulty interpretation, and some false translations. Some even hit on the core issues of the person and work of Christ.

Popular View Wrong

The popular view is often the wrong view or interpretation. Let’s take something simple.

Proverbs 22: 6. “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”

This verse means exactly the opposite of what you’ve been told. The false interpretation is based on a wrong understanding of the word “he” in the first clause. For reasons I can’t fathom, the word “he” is assumed to be God. It is not. He in this clause refers to the child not God. It means “if you allow a child to grow up doing what he (or she) wants to do, when they get old, they won’t depart from doing what is right in their own eyes”. In other words, if you won’t discipline a child when they are young, they will persist in their stubbornness when they get old. The point of the verse is that parents should break their children of bad habits not let them have their way or they will grow up into worthless and unproductive adults. Only parental discipline can drive the sin and rebellion from a child.

Dr. Spock convinced a whole generation of baby boom parents that “spare the rod and spoil the child” was a good and desirable outcome. Again, this verse means the opposite.

From Proverbs 13: 24, the actual text is, “He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.”

The popular understanding is the opposite of what people thought they knew about the Bible.

Eschatology Assumptions

Walter Martin used to say that “A text, without a context, is a pretext, usually for error.” Dr. Martin was ironically guilty of this error when it came to eschatology. He brought a preexisting grid to Scripture that wasn’t there and then spent tremendous energy trying to find it on the pages of the Bible and recontextualizing the verses that didn’t fit. I like Walter Martin and recommend his book, Kingdom of the Cults, but his premillennial dispensational assumptions were wrong then and are still wrong now.

I’m now going to pick on two passages with which I’m sure Martin and I would disagree.

Matthew 24 beginning at verse 36

36 But of that day and hour knoweth no man, no, not the angels of heaven, but my Father only. 37 But as the days of Noe were, so shall also the coming of the Son of man be. 38 For as in the days that were before the flood they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day that Noe entered into the ark, 39 And knew not until the flood came, and took them all away; so shall also the coming of the Son of man be. 40 Then shall two be in the field; the one shall be taken, and the other left. 41 Two women shall be grinding at the mill; the one shall be taken, and the other left.

This section is always put forth as a Rapture passage, but is it?

It will be like the days of Noah (Noe). People will be doing evil things like eating, drinking, and marrying and giving in marriage. Yep, folks will just be living their lives ignorant of the threat they are under and the trouble about to hit them. They knew not until the flood and then people are taken away, just like the Rapture, right? Wrong.

Ya’ll always miss this part, who was taken in the days of Noah? The bad guys not the saints. In the days of Noah, the saints were on the Ark, and the bad guys were taken away by the flood waters. Likewise, when the end comes, two will be in the field, the bad one is taken, and the good one is left behind.

The meek inherit the earth not heaven. Ring a bell anyone?

For dispensationalists, the coming judgment is a worldwide event. However, it is not. In Matthew 24: 16 “Then let them which be in Judaea flee into the mountains:” Yep, you can literally run away to avoid the coming judgment.

Oh, trivia question, how many Christians died in the siege of Jerusalem in 70 A.D.?

Answer: zero. They saw the signs that Jesus predicted and left when the Romans were ready to surround the city. Bet you never learned that in Sunday School.

On two different occasions before the crucifixion, Jesus predicts that you (people in the first century) will see him coming on the clouds of heaven.

“And then shall appear the sign of the Son of man in heaven: and then shall all the tribes of the earth mourn, and they shall see the Son of man coming in the clouds of heaven with power and great glory.” Matthew 24: 30

And the high priest answered and said unto him, I adjure thee by the living God, that thou tell us whether thou be the Christ, the Son of God. 64 Jesus saith unto him, Thou hast said: nevertheless I say unto you, Hereafter shall ye see the Son of man sitting on the right hand of power, and coming in the clouds of heaven. Matthew 26: 63b-64

Oh, lest you think there is any misunderstanding of Jesus’ claim of coming on the clouds of heaven, look what happens next.

Then the high priest rent his clothes, saying, He hath spoken blasphemy; what further need have we of witnesses? behold, now ye have heard his blasphemy. What think ye? They answered and said, He is guilty of death. Matthew 26: 65-66

So, the High Priest would see the Son of Man coming on the clouds of heaven and so would those that heard the Olivet Discourse. Jesus is claiming this was a first century event not one preceded by nations deploying thermonuclear weapons, Cobra helicopters, literal barcodes on hands and foreheads, and all the other wacky stuff claimed about the end times.

Jesus quotes the Old Testament frequently. Clearly the High Priest knew the citation that Jesus quoted and what it means. So where is it found?

“I saw in the night visions, and, behold, one like the Son of man came with the clouds of heaven, and came to the Ancient of days, and they brought him near before him. And there was given him dominion, and glory, and a kingdom, that all people, nations, and languages, should serve him: his dominion is an everlasting dominion, which shall not pass away, and his kingdom that which shall not be destroyed.” Daniel 7: 13 & 14

This is the passage from Daniel. Please note the following,

Jesus called himself “the Son of Man”

Jesus said he would be seen coming on the clouds. Clouds should make your mind go back to The Cloud in Exodus.

Then notice the direction of travel, Jesus is going up to the Ancient of days which is clearly God the Father.

This is clearly the Ascension of Christ not the Second Coming. The direction of travel is up to the Father, not down to the earth.

Take a look at Psalm 2. This psalm is about the crucifixion, verses 1 – 3. God’s reaction, verses 4 – 6, and the rest is about the Father giving the Son all the kingdoms of the earth.

While not explicitly explained, the rulers of men would know that Jesus was seated at the righthand of the Father, ruling the nations. His judgment of Jerusalem and the temple in 70 A.D. was his vindication that he is ruling now. Jesus promised that “this generation” (the generation of people hearing his words) would not pass away until his words would be fulfilled.

These words are simple and easily understood unless you have preconceptions about what the text says. If your understanding needs verbal and textual gymnastics to fit your construct and then you will never come to the truth.

Purposeful Misinterpretation of the Bible

Sadly, over the years, there has been purposeful tinkering with the texts of the Bible. There are two types of willful changes.

First, some translators refuse to translate a passage correctly because it doesn’t agree with their presuppositions of what the text should say. For example, translators often refuse to translate the Greek word Mello or on the occasions when they translate it, they change the meaning of the word because they can’t make sense of it. It means something is about to happen. Greek time texts are often made future by translators when they are actually true in the present or completed in the past and are being completed or applied in the present.

Second, some passages have been altered to change the meaning to minimize supernatural elements or keep them from applying the Christ. Does your version of the Bible have unicorns, Lilith, satyrs, dragons, shades, and other creatures in it. The Hebrew text does or did. Does your Bible have a young woman will conceive or a virgin will conceive? Folks, rabbis began tinkering with the Old Testament text in the Second Century to reduce the number of Jewish converts going into the Christian Church. Many Christians now defend these changes as the correct translation. King James Bible folks, I’m talking about you. Tradition trumps textual fidelity. Yet another thing that makes claims of Sola Scriptura a hollow claim.

Does your version of the Bible translate Deuteronomy 32: 8 as “children of Israel” or “Sons of God”?

“When the most High divided to the nations their inheritance, when he separated the sons of Adam, he set the bounds of the people according to the number of the children of Israel.”

Children of Israel is the altered version, sadly some Christians will fight tooth and nail to defend that bastardized text.

I can cite more examples, but my point is that if you pick up any English translation, it has problems. I’m not saying the Bible is untrustworthy, just that you might exercise a little bit of humility when quoting it. Chapter and verse breaks are not always in the correct spots either. Almost all punctuation has been added by translators too. Usually, they do a good job with that but there are exceptions.

Just one quick example of the challenges of translating Greek. The word “the” in Greek can be written in 24 different tenses. These include, past, present, future, male, female, neuter, singular and plural. My list does not include all the time tenses, but I’m trying to illustrate the complexity of the language.

So, use of the word “the” in Greek could be past, female, and plural; all at the same time. Conversely, the word “a” like a rock, a house, a man, is not in the Greek but always added by translators. Greek has definite article “the” but not indefinite article “a”.

Thus, Jehovah’s Witnesses lie when they translate John 1:1 “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was a God.” The KJV gets it right with “… the Word was God.”

Oh, lastly, on the subject of translation, English words change meaning over time. For example, “Keep”, “Let”, “Prevent” all appear in the KJV but mean the opposite nowadays as they did 400 years ago.

Conclusion

My overall point is to have respect for the text and use the tools that we have available to mine the Scriptures for Truth because not everything handed to you on a silver platter is right. Ronald Reagan’s admonition to “Trust but Verify” is true in more parts of life than just negotiating Soviet nuclear treaties.

January 2026 Update

Here’s some things that I’m involved with over the next several months.

Annulment

The year started with attorney Mario doing absolutely nothing. After my girl bugging him for a few weeks, she was finally told that he was waiting on his second payment before doing any more work on her case. (The psychologist had given him the final report on December 9^th of last year. The proverbial ball has been squarely in Mario’s court since then.) She reminded him that he had already been paid. She looked it up and this happened in the first week of October. Mario verified it in his records and confirmed that he had his first two installments and thus, finally has set to work. Mario is finalizing witness statements and has promised to get us a court date next week.

Mario has the same ethics as a north Idaho contractor, as long as money is flowing then he works, when the account gets paid too far forward, then he stops and goes on to something more lucrative. It’s cash flow baby, not completion that matters.

Anyway, we are five months into what should have been a six month legal process.

Taxes for 2025

My tax appointment with the local CPA is February 2^nd. I am currently missing two documents. I have requested both but whether they arrive by the end of January is unknown.

One that is causing me consternation is CalSTRS. They managed to split one retirement income into three Form 1099’s. I am unable to get any numbers on the retirement income that was collected at the beginning of 2025 since that was treated as my wife’s income. Oh, and just in case you were wondering, they updated their computer system in September and deleted all online accounts. Since my wife was reported as deceased in April, her SSN is blocked from creating an account in their new system. I don’t particularly mind this, but they wouldn’t give me the numbers over the phone when I called. Instead, I had to get a special form off their website and then request the information. (of course, the proper way to return their form was via fax. Like who else uses a fax nowadays?) They didn’t even have her 1099 scheduled to mail to her address on record. Typical California government B.S.

Ring by Spring

After the tax mess is put behind me, I will pivot to getting the requisite diamond ring. I was really hoping that she would opt for a ruby but since I already bought one of those for her, she said that she wants a diamond ring. Yes, dear. I had planned to get the ring at D.J.’s in Woodland but since I have been excused from the big wedding in February, I have no plans to head that way. I found a place in Coeur d’Alene that will probably get my business instead.

May Flowers

If the good Lords wills; I will head to the land of 7,000 islands in May. I plan to be there about six weeks. We will do the blessing ceremony while I’m there. I’m sure we will have a discussion about whether to report said ceremony to the government but likely won’t because it will make us ineligible for the K1 visa option. Thus, look for the reenactment of the blessing ceremony stateside in 2027. If I lack the finances in May, then the backup time will be in July.

On the Home Front

Currently, I am taping the sheetrock in the garage. I have been working on the north wall. I don’t really know what I am doing but my goal is to make it look better and then hit it with a primer coat of paint.

Additionally, I am trying to critter proof the place while all the insects are dormant.

My other goal is to waterproof the wall between the guest room/craft room and the garage. Due to the lack of our contractor’s concrete skills, the garage drains to the center of the slab and not out of the door openings as it should. Every time a vehicle enters the garage after driving in rain or snow, all the water dripping from the underside runs toward the wall and is absorbed by the sheetrock. If there is enough water, it also goes under the wall and pools in the wall area. I can make an argument that a floor drain might help but putting one in without messing up the floor coating in the garage is more money than I can afford right now. Thus far the winter has been mild, and I’ve put enough caulking down that it should be ok … but we will see.

Almost every room in the house is missing some trim or in need of more caulking, especially around the door frames and windows.

The following work still needs to be done:

Trim around tongue and groove ceilings
Backyard fence
Minisplit in garage—leak fix
Bridge between second floor of house and garage
Vent hood in house is not retracting properly
Storage and organization in the garage
Complete closet in the house
Upstairs closet in garage needs barn door
Complete stairwell in garage

So, as you can see, I have many irons in the fire. My girl gets top billing but there is much to keep me busy.

2026 Goals and Gripes

GOALS

My big goal for 2026 is to tie the knot with my special lady. Of course, I have a few obstacles to get out of my way first.

The biggest of these is to survive filing my 2025 taxes. Last year was a train wreck in terms of what it cost. I think this year will be better since I upped the withholdings. I will know February 2^nd when I visit my tax man.

Then there is “the ring.” “One ring to rule them all …” comes to mind. My girl wants a diamond, I was hoping she would be happy with a ruby but have been overruled. I think I have a plan to get this done, but given the price of gold lately, this might be a pricey transaction. Such is life.

Then comes the ceremony. This will be a frugal event, but it will be great. The biggest issue is how to feed the guests. I have a venue in mind but of course my plan may not be hers.

By the time these things are ready, I figure it will be May. Then my last obstacle will be where to warehouse my dog for about six weeks. I have an idea, but I will see what happens. Frankly, this is the costliest part of going on a trip. If I can do better than $25 per day, then I will be happy.

GRIPES

As of this writing, I still have a few sour people trying to dump all over me and my girl. My mom doesn’t understand why I can’t find a white girl in the U.S. of A. She and some other family members have told me that it is even wrong of me to look. They literally have said that I should ignore seeking another relationship and God will bring someone in my life. I tried that with the first wife, and it took over 20 years. Translation, be alone and happy you’re not married. Why is it that married people keep telling single ones to be happy they aren’t married. Sounds to me like they have impaired judgement in selecting a life partner not me. I loved being married and want to do it again.

As always, zero people have put forth zero suggestions as to who I should pursue for marriage. Even back when my parents asked me to divorce my first wife, they had no suggestions as to who could do a better job. The bottom line is that they just like to find fault, point out what they feel are the shortcomings of others, and tear down others that they find inferior. How this builds them up, I’m not sure.

I had weird conversation with my sister the other day. I tried to explain my relationship with my girl and said that if the church is in charge of marriage, then I am walking on solid biblical ground in our relationship. She got hostile and denied that either the church or State was in charge of marriage. Instead, she claimed it was the Bible. The Bible in a vacuum with no institution underpinning it!

I tried to say that God had put the Church in charge of marriage, and she flat out denied it, stating that I was wrong. (I am most certainly correct. See Ray Sutton’s book Second Chance.) Then, she started to accuse me of adultery and began to lecture me that if I went to a Bible believing church then I would know the truth. She had gone over the logical cliff by then and kept going. I was sure the Roadrunner would pop up any second with the sign reading “Gravity” but he never materialized.

Good grief!

God created four governments and marriage must belong to at least one. Here are the choices of biblical government: Self, Church, State, Family. I believe that Christ has given marriage to the church.

My former church believes that marriage belongs primarily to the government and in a secondary capacity to the church. They would deny this but look at how they act. Deeds are louder than words; especially, when the actions don’t align with the words.

This example is true, but I am changing the names and some minor details because they don’t matter to the point I am trying to make.

Steve and Laura joined the church several years ago. They have three small children. Steve was highly regarded by the clergy and was a promising young guy that they wanted to make into an Elder in the congregation. It didn’t happen but …

As time when on, Steve started seeing Zelda, a coworker, on the side. The wife found out and Steve moved out to cohabitate with Zelda. Laura files for divorce. Then the church holds a trial and excommunicated Steve. Once the divorce is finalized in the family law court, Laura is then pronounced from the pulpit as eligible to remarry as the innocent party in the relationship.

Why did the church defer to State action? You can only conclude that marriage belongs to the State. The State gives you a marriage license and licenses officiants so marriage must belong to them. The church has a minor and secondary role in marriage. In fact, a church is really not necessary to get married, it’s just a tradition that the State allows.

Thus, a church that gives lip service to Sola Scriptura doesn’t really believe it. If they believed the Church is biblically charged with administering marriage, they would not wait for the State. State action is irrelevant. They would not wait for Laura to file for divorce. They would try Steve without waiting. Furthermore, they would have simultaneously pronounced judgment on Steve and announced Laura, as the innocent party, eligible to remarry.

Biblically, the State has no part in marriage and until about 1900, they didn’t. Only when local governments began seeking additional income did licensing marriage become a thing. It was originally for the purpose of taxing marriage that it began to be licensed. But now that the church allowed the State to take over marriage, does the current situation exist.

Folks, just because this happened doesn’t make it right, but when your church denies the applicability of biblical law to the State, what do they have left? Such clergy agrees with Gavin Newsom that they are nonessential workers. This is how you know, no matter how nice the pastor might be, that in the final analysis that he is a hireling and not really a shepherd.

Once the State takes something away from the Church, it always belongs to the State.

Folks, the devil gets lots of credit in our society for taking stuff away from the church, but the truth is even more sinister, the church simply cedes the ground to the devil and usually without a fight. You know how you always get mad at Republicans for surrendering to Democrats and getting nothing in the bargain, ditto for the church. Unilateral Capitulation.

People that believe marriage belongs to the church are happy that I have found someone to love. Those that think marriage belongs to the State think I’m a notorious sinner because I assert that I don’t need to wait on the government to get their paperwork caught up with reality to date my girl or, gasp, marry her.

Oh, the other issue involved in my situation is that one part of the body of Christ doesn’t recognize any part of the body but their own denomination. The Apostle to the Gentiles was clear that all the parts are knitted together by the Holy Spirit but one body. Again, my former church claims to be Sola Scriptura but doesn’t believe this either. They want the right to sit in judgement over a church in another country because their method of baptism or whatever isn’t the same as theirs. BFD.

Folks, when you impose any presuppositions onto the Bible, be they cultural or eschatological, you will never rightly divide the Word of Truth. Your presuppositions get in the way.

In about a year, this will all get sorted out. When it does, you will find me standing near Charlie Kirk, Mark Steyn, and a few theologians that are or should be household names. I’m not right, I’m Really Right. I’ve stated this before; I have a plan, I’m working the plan, and it will be alright in the end. Just give me the grace to get there.

They Want Me Back or Else

If you’ve ever changed cell phone carriers, insurance companies, or anything else that uses your wallet as a monthly income stream, you know that they won’t let you leave without some type of protest or incentive to stay with them. Tried cancelling a credit card? Ditto.

What about when you leave a church?

Yep, they will contact you with a we want you back letter too. I got a “Are you sure?” letter emailed to me following my departure from my former church.

Note: in the quotation below, reference to “the Session” is the church board responsible for discipline.

My response in part was:

I feel very violated by the tactics used by the Session. The Session has broken the trust that I had with the church, interjected itself into a situation with zero biblical cause, and attacked my character by its actions. It acted in a heavy-handed and prejudicial way that was completely unnecessary. If you guys really cared about me, then the Session would never be involved. It is the wrong mechanism to use if helping me was really your intention. Furthermore, the Session has become an immovable barrier to any hope of my reconciliation with Providence.

I then asked to be removed from their membership rolls.

I thought this was the end of the matter but then got another follow-up email.

The latest email asserts the church’s right to intervene in my life. They go on to accuse me of breaking my membership vow before God because I don’t like the way they handled their inquiry of my life. The letter asserts that I must submit to their inquiry and any subsequent discipline. They then say that I can’t resign until they decide that I can. The letter then concludes with an invitation to repent and show up at their next meeting.

And they wonder why I said their tactics were heavy-handed? The letter is clear that I submit or risk hell fire and judgment, their judgment anyway.

Again, I don’t want to start down a path that is likely a prelude to a witch hunt.

We’re on another witch hunt, looking for evil wherever we can find it
Off on a tangent, hope the Lord won’t mind it
Another witch hunt, takin’ a break from all our gospel labor
On a crusade, but we forgot our saber

Witch Hunt by Petra (1985)

If someone there had or has a concern, then I was willing to answer their questions, but repeatedly said that I don’t want to get involved with the disciplinary board of the church. I have attempted to avoid that and told several of its members that I do not wish for their formal involvement in my personal life. Yet that is their unwavering demand.

It is funny that their letter quotes Matthew 18 in defense of their actions. If you read the denomination’s Book of Discipline, the church board is exempt from following Matthew 18 where it says

15 Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. 16 But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. 17 And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.

When the church board initiates proceedings, as in my situation, they conveniently skip over verses 15 and 16 and jump straight to 17.

What “trespass” have I committed? They don’t know but there has to be one somewhere.

Who came to me to complain about a “fault.” Nobody.

Thus, nobody subsequently came with two or three witnesses before going before the church. Nope, we just jump to the last step. Again, I have not been accused of anything but surely, I must be guilty of something.

And then they wonder why I have an issue with their tactics!

I have done nothing wrong, but the presumption is that I have and these guys need to get to the bottom of it so they can straighten me out.

This is a no-win scenario. This is the exact reason that I resigned my membership.

Furthermore, in issues of relationships, marriage, and divorce, the board does not believe in the right of the church to oversee these matters but defers to the State. They only affirm the actions of the State.

The following is a real example; I have changed the names.

Joe and Jane were a married couple at the church. Joe started seeing another woman on the side. The church board put Joe through the discipline process and ended up excommunicating him. As all this was happening, Jane initiated divorce proceedings. Later, Jane began dating another man in the church. The Board scolded Jane and her new boyfriend for dating. Months later, the family law court granted Jane’s petition for divorce. The board then announced that Jane was eligible to remarry. Now she could be public about seeing her new boyfriend.

Folks, if marriage is really the sole purview of the church, then why wait to say Jane was eligible to remarry? Why not a concurrent pronouncement with excommunication her unfaithful husband? Why wait on the State?

Biblically, why must the church wait for the State? What biblical right does the State have being involved in the marriage relationship? Just wondering. Oh, and please don’t give me Romans 13 as your answer. That’s the same B.S. used to justify the Covid shutdown and a host of other acts of tyranny by the government.

Kenny Rogers famously said,

“You got to know when to hold ’em, know when to fold ’em.

Know when to walk away and know when to run”

The Gambler (1978)

I’ve tried to walk away but somehow; I don’t think they will willingly let me go.

Rampant Fraud … My Solution

I’ve been thinking about the below Editor’s Note,

Editor’s Note: One issue that is not refuted in the above is stolen identities and organized crime. I suspect the bulk of fraud is via this mechanism. In my experience, government is ill equipped to deal with fraud as the presumption of any government program is that the applicant is eligible.

William is in fact correct. Fraud is likely coming from stolen identities, organized crime, and professional crooks. The honest reality is that the fraudsters are always several steps ahead of normal people. Think of it like this: to keep the honest person honest you put a lock on your front door. However, the burglar doesn’t care that you have a lock and has a device to pry said door open. Bottom line, if the bad guys want it, they will achieve their goal. In this case, the fraud is committed by folks who know how to avoid detection and may even have people on the inside doing the dirty work for them.

I am proposing a solution, unlike many in the Republican Party, I know I want to “throw this out there.” It’s not perfect but here goes.

Universal Basic Income.

Yep, the 90-day guy called it the “stupidest thing he has ever heard. Saying that’s socialism.” The only thing he knows about socialism is that Sean Hannity rails against it. He is loyal to the folks at Fox News. He describes his generation and Republicans in general pretty well, be against everything. Folks voting NO on everything is not a long-term strategy. This mentality is what led us to Obamacare. When asked for his plan, he shrugged. With the amount of TV he consumes, he should know we are facing a serious crossroads in our country.

Think of it this way, we have so many government programs: Section 8, SNAP, disability, unemployment, welfare, just to name a few, what if we replaced them all. Replace them with 1 federal government program. Universal Income isn’t going to be $100,000, not even close. Income would be verified by the IRS annually with your tax return. If you find work and earn an income over ____ you come off the program. Steal my identity and apply? You will be rejected because I earn too much income. This would be verified by the IRS not an administrative law judge. Lose your job during the year? You would have documentation of that to be sent in with your application! To quote Dave Ramsey, folks on UBI (Universal Basic Income) aren’t going to be seeing the inside of very many restaurants. This will probably be in the neighborhood of $35-55k a year depending on where you live, not work.

We have to start thinking differently about an ever-changing work environment. People are having their jobs outsourced overseas constantly. Stores close simply because they “aren’t making enough profit” AI and quantum computing are going to replace a lot of jobs. When workers retire, the replacement is hired for half or two thirds the salary to save money. This constant cutting of expenses as the basic structure of profit and loss statements does not bode well for the workforce long term.

Our workforce of the future needs to be viewed differently too. Some people are disabled and cannot work or cannot work full time. Others will lack a skillset to work. Let’s be real. When Schools and Universities are saying that graduating high school students (incoming class) only read at a 4^th grade level, we have a real issue! That isn’t going to get better with time. That generation is going to be left toiling and twisting in the wind. We shut down our country for 3 years and it has consequences which are just now being felt. Many didn’t finish high school/college. Many students also picked up bad work habits due to the Covid shutdown. Most jobs do not get filled permanently. If they have something, it’s just on a temporary basis. Sadly, these items are basically uncorrectable. Automation is only going to eliminate more positions which again is making the population more and more unemployed. Elon Musk and Vivek Ramaswamy have both spoken about importing folks to the USA on H1-B? Visas to work here. Due to the structure of our educational system, that is the future of our workforce folks.

Paying for it? Well, this is the stumbling block. I’m too lazy to look it up as of press time but collapsing all the federal/state aid programs and their subsequent employees would free up quite a bit of cash to fund this. We do not know how much fraud is truly going on, but this collapses several programs into one program. Streamlines the process and makes it so theIRS will be annually verifying income. It may not be the answer, but I think it’s a start. I have also heard Mark Zuckerburg, and others discuss funding this with some of their own wealth, so there is that.

As far as the obvious Fox News comeback, what will stop people from just not working, or working for cash under the table? There isn’t, but I will say $35-50k is not a whole lot of money, so your lifestyle won’t be great. Much like my remark about food stamps, I highly doubt those folks are using them to buy a filet mignon.

Make the application in person only, verified by a government issued ID, and must have a bank account verified in their name. If they do not possess all three of these, sorry can’t help you. No judge to sign off, no paperwork mistakes. Income verified and viola. As mentioned above, IRS checked each year for fraud purposes. Get caught, you are arrested and permanently removed from the program. Check has to go to an address not a PO Box. Will it stop all fraud? No. Will folks on the program use the funds for illicit activities? Sure. The point isn’t to stop all fraud going on, that’s impossible. But my idea is to make it a lot more difficult, that’s all.

If you hate my idea…. May I respectfully ask for your submission?

The Chief

Editor’s Note: I don’t wish to speak directly to the merits of this idea, although collapsing the infamous social safety net into a handful of programs instead of the thousands of existing and overlapping programs being administered currently appears to have merit. I just want to remind you of the plans that Joe Biden had for the IRS. Biden wanted every financial transaction in the United States reported to and tracked by the IRS. The goal of the plan was that the IRS would become our financial Big Brother. Part of the proposal was that the IRS would eliminate income tax filing for individuals. At year end, they would either send you a tax bill or a refund for overpaid taxes. One reason for the program was to eliminate fraud (that it would boost tax revenue was assumed as well).

Let’s Play Global Thermonuclear War—Church Edition Part 2

This clear reference to the movie War Games (1983) should be rather obvious. The point of the movie was that when faced with nuclear war, the best move was not to play. Of course, the movie was made while Ronald Reagan was President. Liberals hated Reagan and thought him a warmongering “cowboy” for opposing the Soviet Union; a government that many of them admired. War Games got a very lengthy standing ovation when it premiered at the Canne Film Festival.

While invoking War Games might seem a stretch to some, my conclusion when analyzing my current conflict with my church was that there is a life lesson to be found in the idea that sometimes avoiding a confrontation is best. Anyone that is happily married knows what I mean.

I originally drafted this blog just a few hours before appearing before my church’s board. If you find me changing time tenses, that is probably why.

In their particular parlance, this group is called “The Session”. They are the judicial body of my local congregation. These are the guys that meet out justice as they see fit. Twice in the last year they have excommunicated members for adultery and followed it up by declaring the other spouse fit to remarry. Except for politicians and country music singers, adultery is usually viewed as something bad. Having this group taking an interest in my love life is not a good sign.

I have had friends excommunicated from their churches for dating women from the wrong or unapproved church denomination before. I have seen abuse of heavy-handed dealings with folks for just being honest that they wanted to leave and go to a different church. I have even seen pronouncements of excommunication for people that never attended services and were certainly never church members. My wife and I have also been beaten up by churches that we have attended in the past. I made a vow that I would never again yield any part of my life to one of these judicial boards or to a pastor in any church. I will never voluntarily put myself on any path that might ever lead to church discipline or excommunication, never ever!

I repeatedly told these guys that I am perfectly willing to discuss my relationship with my girlfriend over a meal at any local watering hole but that I do not want to appear before “The Session.” If I’m called before a judicial body to give an account of my personal life, then I’m in trouble. That seems obvious to me.

They keep saying that they “have a few questions” for me. Hey guys, you know where I live, you have my phone number, and email address. I’m retired and don’t have much of a life so I’m rather available for a casual lunch or dinner.

But No. It must be ASAP, and it must be before this body; then they say I have nothing to worry about! Guys, I wasn’t born yesterday. This cover story is not credible. If they want to speak with me, the church is having a Christmas potluck in a few days, why not ask me your questions there?

If I go to this meeting and then answer their questions, then obviously they will then draw a conclusion from the information that I provide, and then the next step is a determination. Determination is another word for rendering judgement. Any judgment issued will then include a follow-up to their conclusion to see if I’m obeying them or going a different way. If I go a different way, then it is implied that they will then jerk my chain and I will again have to appear before them. Thus, like most things in life, my appearance is not a destination but the beginning of a process with no clear or predefined endpoint. This sounds like politics to me.

Oh, what about Matthew 18: 15-17 about going to your brother if he has a fault. Well, that doesn’t apply. First, because I haven’t offended anybody in my congregation, unless not liking me dating someone is a crime, and second because there is an exception to this biblical mandate in the Book of Discipline. If “The Session” originates the charge against someone then the process in Matthew is not required.

Also, did you know that there is no Fifth Amendment in the Bible? Yep, you can be hung on the basis of your own words. So even if they don’t have anything on me when I walk in the door, they can hang me on the basis of what I say in their presence. Thus, the command to appear before them is a fishing license to find a charge to hit me with. To appear is to grant them a blank check to find a charge even where none existed before.

Oh, on a previous post on this subject, an anonymous comment was made that I did not allow on the blog just because it was not signed. Said comment quoted a verse in Proverbs. I would like to comment on that verse now.

Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety. Proverbs 11:14.

First, the verse is directed at leaders of men, would it be a stretch to think this is advice from one king (Solomon) to another (like maybe his sons). But let’s allow that all folks need counselors and see if it applies in this situation.

Are the men in my church that are on “The Session” my trusted friends that really know me and what’s on my heart?

Is this situation a meeting of equals?

Do I see these guys as my circle of counselors?

Nope. Just because someone knows my name does not make them my friend. My wife may have felt that way about everyone that she met, but I do not. I’ve had a handful of true friends in my life; probably about ten individuals. With the exception of the Sith Lord, who dumped me when I was no longer useful to him, I’ve kept the rest of them in my life. True, I don’t see my friends every day or even every year, but our lives are linked, and I trust them and our relationship goes on. When we are together, we pick up right where we left off the last time that we were together.

There is only one guy in my congregation that I am friendly with, and he is not on this board. He also does not know, or even want to know, all the nitty gritty details of my life. We have some things in common and as a result, spend time together. I would describe him as a casual friend.

This is not to say that I dislike the other men in my church; it’s that we have never gotten to know each other very well. We are not actively part of each other’s lives. It is something between presumption and hubris for them to claim to act as my counselors when I appear before them assembled as “The Session.”

No, in “The Session,” they are my betters, and I am the inferior person. This is not a meeting of Christian brothers, equals, or friends. By its very nature, this is an adversarial meeting.

When I walked into the meeting today, I greeted the four people in attendance and shook their hands. The guy from Boise didn’t make the meeting but after about a ten-minute delay, the other fellow finally logged in on Zoom. Once all five people were assembled, the meeting was opened. I was invited to join them at the table, but I did not. Instead, I announced that I was resigning my membership. One of the people then quipped, but you have to appear here because you’re a member. Then I said, “I’m not doing this” and left.

Just so you know, I spent the better part of a week crafting this long speech about my relationship with my girl and all the pertinent details that I was going to offer as a defense and I scrapped it completely. Yep, nine pages of reasoning and airtight logic that will never see the light of day unless I post it separately (which I currently have no plans to do).

So why just quit?

First, they are wrong and out of line. While true, I know I can never convince them of that or this blog post would never exist.

Second, I would rather part as casual friends than adversaries or combatants.

Third, this is a really small town, and we all need to continue to live here after this is over. Folks, most guys living here won’t believe it, but there are high schools in other states that have a bigger population than this town. 2,300 is not a lot of people to be rubbing shoulders with on a daily basis.

Fourth, why should I stay in a group that is hell bent on stringing me up? If I dodge the gallows this time, what will prevent them from trying it again in the future? If not me, then who will they go after next?

Lastly, the closer I got to this meeting, the more the scares of my previous dust-up in a Presbyterian church began to open. Unresolved wounds are the ones you carry the deepest hoping to suppress them. When they burst forth and the new situation is pumping vast amounts of salt into them, the more the pain is renewed and intensified. This steeled my resolve that I would not willingly enter into another opportunity for a church’s leadership to sit in judgement of me. Were my wife still alive, I believe she would support me in this feeling (of course, we’re here because she is not).

This whole thing is so stupid. The church has already lost about one third of their membership this year (this is a conservative estimate) and they want to cap off the year with my scalp too. They are bleeding members and money. Maybe they need to get a clue that some things are not right. Again, they can never be convinced of that and it’s not my job.

In summary, had they come to me as a fellow brother in Christ and not treated me as their inferior, I might be there next Sunday. They have wasted the greatest advantage that they once had, goodwill and trust. Sadly, that has been laid waste because they were too proud to ask me out for a casual meal and then speak their mind.

Let’s Play Global Thermonuclear War—Church Edition Part 1

Yep, me having a girlfriend is too much for the board at my church. I have been summoned because they are “concerned.” Please understand that this is not a casual chat. No, all the voting members are scheduled to attend. Two members, including one that lives almost 400 miles away, are scheduled to attend via Zoom.

I had asked for an informal setting, like maybe over a burger and beverage of your choice but learned that was not an option. If chatting is all this meeting is about, then a casual setting should be in order; however, I have been led to believe that they have other plans. I was assured by one board member, “I’m not up for excommunication just yet” or words to that effect. It was implied that lesser punishments were the likely outcome.

I also asked, why not meet after Christmas? Why the urgency? I was told sorry; we need to do this now.

Given my 35 plus years of experience in and around California Republican politics and the CRA, I know when you are about to reenact the Ides of March. Oh, FYI, in religious politics, it is called “churchmanship” not church politics.

I have had about ten days of waiting for this confrontation. In that time, I have gone over the likely issues that might be raised. Frankly, I don’t see any grounds that can be raised to summon me there. I have tried keeping three board members, including the pastor in the loop of what is happening, specifically for the purpose of avoiding this very action. Clearly my request/promise to him “to give me the grace to get through this and everything will be ok” has not been honored.

I already have a good idea of the likely issues that will be raised. Since June I have been probing various members of the board on their thoughts on various issues that I expected to encounter while hunting for a wife; this was long before I met my future new bride.

What they don’t understand is that I am working through the plan that was formulated about the time my wife was buried in May. Like any plan, once the battle ensued, field adjustments were necessary, but the plan has gone forward, and a successful conclusion is within sight.

I have always been looking for a wife. I have only been looking for marriage minded women, not a quick romp in the sack, or a movie night date. As mentioned, many times on my posts about dating, as a group, American women in the 40 years and older category are a mess and mostly a toxic bunch. I don’t want to finance their mistakes in love, student loans, credit cards, etc.

Zero people that know me or my wife have offered me a single name, no matter how ridiculous, to ask out for a date; but when I fend for myself and pick a nice Christian woman all hell breaks loose. Clearly, they don’t know of anybody or I think, as much as everyone is trying to be in my business now, that I would have heard from them. FYI it’s too late now, I found my next wife.

Two more things have been bubbling out about the church fathers wanting to make me an offer that I can’t refuse.

One is related to the idea that it’s too soon to get married again. Says who? Oh yeah, a bunch of married people gladly giving a single guy the advice not to get married. Guess they don’t want me to suffer by being married like they are. This tells me that they aren’t too happy about having a bride. Just sayin’.

Sorry I loved being married and would do it again in a heartbeat. I find it really sad that Christian people have such a hangup on the idea that marriage can’t be fun. Biblically, it is our proper role in the universe so why not enjoy it? (Can you tell that Charlie Kirk is not influential in these circles?)

Second, right before my road trip to the Philippines, my pastor hands me a tract on grief. If I didn’t know better, I would say he was talking to my mom. I read said booklet last night. It covered no new ground or anything that I hadn’t heard before. One nugget in there was the timeframe for people grieving: three months to one year. As stated previously, I have known that Sheryl would die for four years before it finally happened. My wife and I countered down the last time we will get to have a birthday, Christmas, New Years, Valentines Day, etc. The private hell that I went through was horrible and I don’t wish that experience on anybody, but to deny that I have been dealing with the loss is beyond stupid and borderline evil.

The richest irony in all this is that my attendance at this particular church was due to my wife. Going to this church was her idea and literally the only thing left in my life that we used to do together. Now the church wants to take that away from me too, in part because according to them, I did not grieve her properly! All I have left in my weekly activity that I shared with my wife is being forcibly removed from me at this Wednesday (tomorrow) meeting. Ironically, by the church where she wanted to worship and set down roots. WTF?

I have easily lost over 40 hours of sleep in the last week trying to find a way to solve this mess. I finally settled on a solution today. I won’t tip my hand as to what I chose but I have peace about Wednesday’s meeting.

My biggest frustration is that I like many of the people involved in this ill-conceived intervention. They are about nine months too late to have a talk with me. Just because they mostly left me alone when I was grieving, and therefore didn’t witness it in vivid detail, doesn’t mean it never happened. Lastly, none of them have walked in my shoes but dare to know better! Really? I thought the Good Book covered that topic too.

If You Can’t Be Helpful Please Stay Out of My Business

This is my personal blog, and I need to vent. I have written numerous posts (probably about two dozen) over the last six months that I have not actually posted. But I’m gonna break from that practice and stick this on the record.

As stated previously, my wife died in April. After much searching, I found a woman worth pursuing all the way to the alter. Instead of being happy for me, many people have made it their life’s work to start attacking me. Sadly, this included people in my family and church.

One vector of attach is that my lady lives outside the United States. My response is so what? I took a look at the available women in the US, and they are a sorry lot. The pickings are slim to none.

I can’t remember what I have posted before but I decided early on that I have no interest in marrying someone that looks like my grandmother. That was a sound and good decision. Why? Because women in my age group that are single, by whatever reason, have zero interest in getting married again. All they want is to dote over grandchildren. They will not move one block further away from the grands and certainly not to another state to live with somebody like me. Leave and cleave is not part of their world.

This leaves younger women. I’m talking in this category of women plus or minus 40. I want the option of having more children so babes in their fifties are not on my radar, plus see comment above on grand kids.

Folks the amount of baggage that many of these broken women have is lethally toxic. Joint custody, student loans, careers, social activities, etc. They either don’t really want a husband or have so many restrictions that they impose on the relationship that it will never work. Many have their mortgage, car payment, and career and then want to add a husband in much the same way as they would add a wardrobe accessory. They are not serious about marriage, at least not as defined biblically. They are so poisoned with feminism and our consumer culture that they are unhealthy to be around. It is not unusual for a woman in this demographic to start their evaluation of a man’s fitness by the car that he drives and the man’s financial statement. They require that any man in their life be able to pull out his credit card and fix all their past mistakes. I’m not making this up.

Statistically, women in their thirties don’t want to get married. Less than half are even interested and that statistic may really be as low as 34 percent. And that doesn’t mean that the marriage minded 34 percent are actively looking. Our culture is over the cliff of demographic suicide. Why do you think Charle Kirk kept saying start a family? Have children.

Contributing to this abysmal condition in the church is the prevalence of the broken and failed evangelical theology of premillennial dispensationalism. Jesus is coming any second so why plan for the future? Most Christians don’t believe there is any future. It’s all gonna burn and we are just passing through. Just ask them. Why get married and have children if you believe the world will end any second. Yes, this doctrine is bullshit and heresy. I know adherents will complain about my analysis but it’s true and I can prove it. This is why eschatology is a primary issue not a secondary one.

I have spent months scouring Christian Singles websites, allegedly populated by marriage minded women, for any signs of someone wanting a serious relationship and came up empty. My criteria were simple and realistic, but detailed. Zero takers. I even pivoted from the United States to searching for single Christian women anywhere on the planet. I expanded my search into Europe, South America, Africa, and Asia.

Believe it or not, many of the Christian websites that I tried do not list the ages of the women or the ages of men that they would be interested in meeting. I had some nice chats with a few women between 25 and 31 but we agreed that they were too young for me. I thanked them for chatting, wished them happy hunting, and parted ways.

I decided more radical action was needed in order to be successful in my search. In August, I joined a site called Christian Filipina. Wow!

There’s an old story about someone asking a thief why he chose to rob banks. He replied, “because that’s where the money is.”

Christian Filipina is like the bank. It is chock full of real women that want to find husbands. In one day on Christian Filipina, I met more woman than I had on every other singles website I had tried combined. Of course, the cost of the website is one reason that it is so good, but I highly recommend it if you are serious about being marriage minded.

Because my lady is not from the United States, I am getting a ration of crap from some people. I’ve surveyed the dating screen in the United States and its really crappy.

Oh, lastly, NO. Since my wife died, zero people have suggested a single female for me to take a look at as a possible mate. Bye the way, I’m OK with that. I just wanted to mention that to make the point that people will gladly complain about my choices, but they really are not interested in helping me, they just want to bitch and criticize me only to put me down.

This brings up the other attack vector that people are using against me. These attacks are cruel, evil, and none of their f*cking business. This is the “you haven’t mourned enough for your dead wife” line of crap.

First, how the hell would you know?

Funny how these people tend to be married, with a currently living spouse, trying to tell me what I should do. They have never been through it but somehow are self-appointed experts in what I’m going through. They are totally inflexible. Their minds are made-up. Somehow, they know best.

I have zero respect for folks in this bucket. If you feel this way, please keep your mouth shut. By opening your pie hole, you make yourself a fool and I don’t want to be around people that feel this way about me or my wife ever again. Please just remove yourself from my life so I won’t have to do it later.

Look, I know people say stupid stuff to those suffering cancer or having lost someone to death. I know, I used to say stupid crap too, but I know better now. But the line, “you haven’t mourned enough” is out of line. Even if you feel that way, keep the opinion to yourself and don’t go repeating it to a widow or widower.

I knew for four years that my wife would die from her cancer. How f*cking long must I mourn?

I’ve been mourning since the day I heard the diagnosis and looked it up on Doctor Google.

I knew it both times that we worked on our last will and testament.

I knew it when we chose to move to Idaho.

I knew it when we watched my son graduated high school.

I knew it when we somehow were able to come up with the money to send my wife to sing at Carnegie Hall.

I knew it when we sat down at our last Valentine’s Day meal. We both knew that there would never be another.

I knew it when she was placed in hospice care.

I knew it when her dad and I watched her die.

Please don’t ever say I haven’t mourned enough. That is a lie, and I won’t have it said in my presence. If you really feel that way about me then please get the hell out of my life because I don’t need you in it.

I have some people that I thought cared about me that are gunning for me for stupid reasons. Please stop. If you can’t be happy that I have found love again then shut up and get out of my life. If you don’t then I will remove you from it myself.

Abolitionist Responds

Many years ago, Christian recording artist, Steve Taylor, released a parody song that pretty much ended his singing career and a brilliant run of successful albums. His release of “I Blew Up the Clinic Real Good” was a bridge too far for some folks in the executive suite of his recording label. The song is about an ice cream man that blows up the local abortion clinic because it is depriving his business of future customers. The best line in it is,

Excuse me, sir

Ain’t nothing wrong with this country

That a few plastic explosives won’t cure.

Yesterday on Facebook, I took my turn as the ice cream man of the Abolitionist movement. I asked what I thought was a legitimate and honest question to a post stating that “IVF kills more babies than abortion”.

The guy that posted it was someone I have been Facebook friends with for about a year and a half. He has about 4,600 followers and is constantly posting about the evils of IVF.

I asked, “[name deleted] can you start talking more about alternatives to IVF instead of just condemning it?”

Folks, I think that is a fair and honest question. I think that I stated so in my previous post. But the response from Abolitionists followers was off the rails weird.

“Like all sin the best alternative is the gospel.”

“Adoption.”

I then restated my question. “… what alternatives can be offered to people that think IVF is their only option?”

Restating the question did not help.

Abolitionists were dumbfounded that I would ask such a question. It was so outside of their wheelhouse that it simply didn’t compute with them.

One person said that folks at the IVF clinic simply need the Gospel.

I said, I’m not talking about the Gospel or adoption. What help can you offer a couple walking in the door of the IVF clinic that can’t have children the usual way but wants their own biological children?

At one point I said, we have centers to send people as an alternative to abortion clinics. Where can you send people instead of the IVF clinic? I even mentioned the saying, “You can’t beat something with nothing.” There were zero responses to that question. I can only conclude that they don’t feel an alternative should even be offered.

Other that shouting to infertile couples not to kill their own baby, they seemed to have nothing to offer.

After restating my question for the third time in the same Facebook thread, the original poster of the anti-IVF remarks then started private messaging me and demanded that I call him personally. It was then that I learned that he was a truck driver by profession. He said that he couldn’t text and drive, although he managed to message me several times when he was supposed to be driving.

I finally called him and spent the better part of an hour on the phone. He treated me like I was visiting junior high youth group for the first time and stepped me through his thought process on why IVF was evil.

During this call, it was claimed that there are one million fertilized eggs in cold storage in the United Stated. These eggs are considered property and depending on the clinic and lab arrangements, the biological parents may or may not be considered the owners of these children. (If life begins at the beginning, then they are children.)

At points in the conversation, the man seemed to confuse IVF with surrogacy. He also stated that most people at IVF clinics were not Christians as Christians know better than to pursue IVF which is why giving people at IVF clinics the Gospel is so important.

I reminded him that that was a false assumption. I told him that statistically, there is no difference in the abortion and divorce statistics between the general population and those who identify as Christian, so why would he expect people at the local IVF clinic to be any different? He was dismissive of my remark and didn’t believe it. For someone claiming to be pro-life, this bothered me. The statistics that I quoted on abortion and divorce have often been used to show the ineffectiveness of the Christian Church in the West. I also said that I have never heard any church speak from the pulpit on IVF or abortion. (I am not talking about some throwaway line in a sermon but an actual sermon on the topic.)

After letting him talk for quite a while, I again brought up what alternatives that he could offer. Again, he said the Gospel. I pressed him on it, and he suggested that it was our duty as Christians to adopt all one million kids in freezers and bring them all into the world. Adoption was mentioned as part of this discussion.

Folks. As we were ending the phone call, he promised to send me a URL to a website with alternatives but all I got from him was 3 memes on the evils of IVF.

He also said that a minister that is big in Abolitionists circles named John Speed had responded to my question. I told him that I hadn’t been on FB in a while.

Speed’s response was in five points which I will summarize below.

1 Pastors need to preach about the unethical nature of IVF and that there is no ethical version

2 Pastors need to research #1 to be convinced that IVF is unethical.

3 When infertile couples come to their pastor for counseling, pastor must know NAPRO tech and natural methods to deal with infertility

4 Adoption

5 If you really want a kid, try to get an embryo donated.

Folks, if IVF continues and Christians start adopting frozen children then I think the situation will get worse from the Abolitionist point of view, not better. More demand will require more supply. Only if IVF is ended first would this form of adoption be a good idea.

Later, the original poster of the IVF comment gave me 10 bullet points on the Facebook thread. They include: being content in your current situation, prayer, fasting, adoption, get your “baby fix” at the church nursery, or lastly seek an expert in fertility that is ethical. (Several of the points were duplicate ideas just stated differently.)

This advice was followed up with “Let us “not” to do evil (make and murder babies) so good may come (one baby delivered) to begin with.”

So, there you have it. Abolitionists don’t have any alternate ways of a couple conceiving a child. Their answer, just be happy you can’t have a kid or go borrow someone else’s.

Oh, the initial claim that IVF kills more children than abortion is demonstrably false; if for no other reason than there are few that can afford IVF. Last I heard, we have about 2. 5 million abortions annually and there are about 50 million per year worldwide. Sorry, but the math doesn’t work to support a claim that IVF kills more than abortion.